If you keep up with his MySpace blog, you know that Buddha, the man who would never be Mr. New York, has tons to say about his time on the I Love New York 2. After the jump is Part 1 of our lengthy interview with the first-runner-up. He talks Tiffany, his violent reputation, street philosophy and why he thinks Punk punk’d him.
You didn’t seem too broken up about not winning New York’s heart.
Yeah I wasn’t. I expected to lose.
Yeah. When I got down to the Final Two, just judging by conversations going back and forth with New York, I expected to lose. It had gotten to the point that I had realized that the biggest factor is that she’s young. And another thing: it seemed like she was more attracted to the aspect of a rich man paying for her for everything and being basically a slave to her, than having a real man complement her. I don’t think she wanted someone that’s actually gonna bring her up and make her a better person. So I had already accepted I was gonna lose.
Was it disappointing to you at all?
It was disappointing when I realized that I couldn’t change the position that I would lose. That’s when I mourned, but you didn’t see that on TV.
But if she did choose you, do you think that your personalities were compatible enough to make it last?
It wouldn’t have lasted only because I would have spoken to her at elimination to tell her that I’m not the right one. No matter what, I knew I would not walk out the winner.
She accused you of trying to get into her head. Was that a conscious tactic of yours?
No. I’ve been in a relationship like that before where a woman can’t help herself with being so dramatic. Tiffany can’t help it. She loves drama. It wasn’t about getting into her head; it was about pleasing her. It was to give her a fixation that she wanted. I had to accept in my mind that drama is sex for her. I really am a pleaser by nature so I was giving her exactly what she wanted. I know that is what she wants. That is better to her than diamonds and pearls.
And you were willing to go forward and put up with that?
No. That’s why I said I’m the wrong one. Frankly, in the real world scenario, I would have left her a long time ago. I didn’t want to have to go back and forth and have to prove myself over and over again. I’m not for that. Because it’s her insecurity that’s the problem.
What makes you so open and willing to share your experience, for example, via your MySpace blog?
At one point in time, I was where the viewer was sitting. I wasn’t on TV. I always wondered myself, I wonder what really goes on. And I know being in entertainment, what you see isn’t what you get. It’s the side they want to show you. When I found out I made it to the show, I decided that regardless of what they show, I’m going to tell the whole truth and nothing but the truth. I’m going to give more truth, more enlightenment to what actually happened. That passion drives me. Obviously, I’m a passionate person.
Speaking of what they showed, a big issue was made over your volatility. What do you think about the regular suggestions that you’re violent?
It all depends on the situation that you put me. It’s the same way for any other man or any other woman if you put them in a cage full of gorillas. Of course you’ve got to fight, you got to defend yourself. Someone’s gotta run one way or another. My reactions are always honest. With passion comes truth. A good example is the situation that occurred with Chance. I don’t negotiate with ignorant people, period. When people are ignorant, when their mentality is all about that, it’s a street mentality. I always say I don’t negotiate with niggas. It was a saying that I came up with when I was 14 years old. I have stuck through it, I do not negotiate. I do not negotiate with that ignorant black mentality. Or just ignorant lower class mentality, is actually what it is. Lower class mentality. Street mentality. If you want to be cool, let’s be cool, but if you try to get into an aggressive mentality, then an aggressive mentality it is. I don’t care to converse, I’m not going to negotiate somebody down.
So do you walk away?
Either we’re going to agree to disagree, walk away and go our separate ways, or it’s going to be something. I’d much rather agree to disagree and walk away. Coming from a street perspective, you rarely find individuals that come from that mentality that are willing to just agree to disagree. I think that is part of the problem with society as a whole. The street mentality is you gotta fight.
This philosophy seems potentially controversial, at best.
The only people that give me real issues about that are people that come from that perspective. They come from that mentality, so they don’t understand it. Honestly, my response from that is typically 99.9 percent positive. It’s only a few individuals that say, “I don’t know what you’re talking about.” It’s especially blacks, the educated, the quote-unquote highly educated blacks will say, “No, it shouldn’t be that way and yadda, yadda, yadda.” I hear what they’re saying but the fact is, I’ve seen way too many black people, educated black people or well-to-do black people trying to do better in the streets that are getting stabbed in the back by men that they’re trying to negotiate with. They’ll sit there and speak with them and reason with them. But what people need to understand is when you’re talking about a nigga mentality, N.I.G.G.A., that nigga mentality, it is non-negotiable. There’s nothing to speak about because people don’t care. All they care about is actions. That’s why you have people like Chance, for example. He’s all talk. His actions are in his talk. He stands and projects himself and yells and throws a temper tantrum. He wouldn’t actually fight, but he would cause all the actions. He caused other people to fight.
Speaking of taking action, yours against Tailor Made got you booted from the house, temporarily. Tell me about what happened while you were gone, because I think that some people don’t believe that you actually went anywhere.
I was gone. There is no doubt about it. When I left, I was back home doing exactly what I was doing. I was personal-training, self-defense coaching, I was life-coaching. I was doing that and literally two days later, I got a call from a woman who worked behind-the-scenes. I’m like, “Are you guys alright with me? Is there a lawsuit? She’s like, “No, no.” That’s when she told me they wanted me to come back. They had already wanted me back prior to my letter, it just so happens that it worked out perfectly for them. Because the letter ended up being an introduction to me coming back.
And then, after that, how was it dealing with Tailor Made?
We got stuff together and went into the kitchen. I had already made up with him at that time, but it wasn’t shown. I already told him, “Listen: there is no need for you to walk around scared and fearful and all that. What’s done is done and what was said is said. There’s nothing more I will do to you.” We started off fresh, and decided to let it go. He was cool with that and we were really fine from then on. My mentality was, I accepted him for who he is. So anything he did after that time, anything backstabbing wasn’t backstabbing because that’s who he is.
So, you respect him more than, say, Punk?
Yes. I respect him 100 percent more than Punk. Punk’s approach was one of friendship. We’re friends, we’re cool, when in actuality, it was a tactic. You keep your friends close, your enemies closer: that was his whole tactic. It was the very definition of backstabbing. I don’t completely blame him because the fact that he went to Harvard Law School to become a criminal defense attorney. I should have read into that in the first place, but I like to give people the benefit of the doubt.
You refer to Punk as “bisexual” on your blog. Where does that come from?
That was a suspicion that I had earlier on in the show. I discussed this off-camera with people on the show. That was a thought that was in several people’s minds. First of all, why would New York call him “Punk”? Where I come from, if you call someone “punk,” you mean they’re gay. Either he’s a backstabber or he’s gay. Punk strikes me as kinda gay. It seems to me that he tries too hard. He tries too hard to be too pretty. And it’s not saying that it’s bad to be gay: you do you. If that’s you, that’s you. It did strike me as suspect, but I wasn’t conclusively saying he was gay. It wasn’t until Miami when I thought that this dude was bisexual.
Because of his horseplay with Tailor Made?
It was way too much. It was to the point where no straight man would be playing like this. I was laughing at them, but in the back of my mind, I’m thinking, “These dudes are gay.” The boy wrestling inside the limo, and then once we were upstairs, he was lifting up Tailor…straight men don’t play like that. Period. You don’t see it on the air, but it happened. All you see is us getting out of the limo, but even then, when you see Punk and Tailor, they’re perspiring. It’s like why are they so sweaty? And then when they got to the table, they were still playing around with each other. Grabbing ass and sitting on each other’s laps. If they really wanted to sit next to Tiffany so bad, why didn’t they each pick a side?
Punk also told me that you started the Pretty gay rumor. Do you have anything to say about that?
Punk would say that, and no, that’s not the case at all. I asked the Entertainer about this. When we were outside in the Jacuzzi, it was just me and the Entertainer, I said, “Look, there’s a couple of dudes that seem pretty suspect to me.” The two people I was talking about were Punk and Tailor, and I made a point not to say any names. The Entertainer actually thought I was talking about It. It kept asking everyone, “Hey, let’s compare d*** sizes.” I was like, “I don’t think It is gay, he’s just an idiot.” I wouldn’t tell him who I was talking about, I told him to look around and tell me what he thought. So, no. That’s definitely not true.
But if you didn’t start the rumor, who did?
You know, I don’t even believe there was a rumor. There’s no doubt that Pretty comes off as an effeminate male. Probably 99 percent of people when they meet him have the same reaction that I did, like, “Man. I don’t know.” But I don’t pull that judgment trigger before I get to know someone. And then you get to know him and you find out he was raised by women: mom, sister, his nieces, his aunts. Women were all around him, and that’s why he’s a feminine guy. But there was never a rumor in the house that he was gay before I left. It wasn’t until I was gone that it really started. That’s when the Entertainer, being the guy that he is, he brings it up in front of Tailor and then Tailor runs and goes to tell New York. How are you gonna blame Tailor? That’s like putting water in a bucket with a hole in it, and then blaming the bucket when it leaks. It doesn’t make any sense. But the Entertainer definitely implied that I started it by saying that the person who told him had just left. I was the only person that qualified for that description. Obviously, if I had said that, why wouldn’t he have said it in my face? Why wouldn’t he have said, “Buddha said this”?