Tool Academy’s Trina Cures Your Romance Woes
By now you’ve seen the preview of our latest show, Tool Academy. The show premieres Sunday, January 11, and It’s about the dynamic that goes on between a flamboyant, cocky man (”I don’t miss a workout, unless it’s for a threesome”) and a long-suffering woman who expects a bit of tenderness now and then (”If I don’t want to do what he wants to do, he think I should just go away”). Some couples are just out of whack, right?
Fortunately Tool Academy provides an expert to iron out those kind of really rough spots. Trina Dolenz is the couples therapist who tries to bring some balance to these wobbly relationships. Along the way there’s some outrageous behavior and some true emotional clarity that arises. Basically we’re all hoping that these guys aren’t going to be tools their whole lives.
We’re also hoping Trina can help VH1.com users with some of their own relationship problems. She’s inviting those Tool Academy fans with troubles of their own to write to her for advice. Every week throughout the show’s run, she will answer three audience submissions right here in the blog.
Ladies talk to your guys. Men, speak with your honeys. Pick a part of your romance that just isn’t working, and describe it to Ms. Dolenz. Could be commitment issues, could be respect issues, could be sexual issues. Whichever, a bit of free advice can go a long way.
Send submissions to toolacademy@gmail.com, and come back on Mondays to see if Trina has addressed your note.
Check Trina Dolenz’s Web site for more info.
Check the Tool Academy supertrailer after the jump.
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October 19th, 2009 at 10:14 am
Hey trina i wont to sign my boyfriend up for tool academy how do i go about the process please help me
October 20th, 2009 at 12:38 pm
hey trina how can i sing my tool in tool academy n will i make a girls tool academy???
October 21st, 2009 at 7:31 pm
Hey Trina I really want to sign up my boyfriend for tool academy! How do I go about signing him up? Please let me know and thank you so much!
October 22nd, 2009 at 1:42 am
i’m not sure how to explain my situation. how do you know if your boyfriend isn’t lying? it’s hard to believe because he already lied straight to my face and personally told to look straight into his eyes. can you please email me.
October 25th, 2009 at 4:45 pm
Trina,
My boyfriend breaks his promises, lies to me while there is evidence in my hands and is so proud because he has not gained any weight since he was 17! He is now 37. He has a sex obsessed friend who uses violence during sex with girls, because he says that they always come back for more. Cesear thinks that it is all so funny. I recently found out that this friend is married.
He says that he loves me every day and wants to have children with me and marry soon, but I want to establish trust first. Please help me fix Cesear. I don’t know if I can shake the dirt out of this mat or if the dirt has always been a part of the weave.
October 25th, 2009 at 4:48 pm
Trina, I watched the show faithfully today. It is better than Supper nanny or nanny911, even though they still have the mentality of children. The program said that we can come to this website to sign up for the show…where!
Pressure Cooker Baloney Taker
October 26th, 2009 at 5:16 pm
please help my 9 year relationship with my boyfriend he stays in strip clubs all night,he cheats on me,and he only cares about himself he dont buy for his kids,but he got 3 jobs,and i once caught him cheating on me and he didnt even stop the action he kept having sex with her.so please help me before our 9 year relationship goes down the drain.this is all im asking is help.my realationship.by the way im grown im 21.
PS,THANK YOU
November 3rd, 2009 at 4:42 pm
I am sure you are really busy and get a ton of mail all the time, so if you can not touch on my issue I totally understand. I have been dating this guy on and off now for almost 4 years, I am 23 and he is 34. I fell in love with him within 2 months of dating. He is the ONLY man I have EVER loved. After 2 months of dating he had to leave for Alabama for his job to help clean up Hurricane Katrina. It broke my heart, but I DID continue the relationship with him, waitied for him, and was totally faithful. When he got back things were a little different but I loved him and was able to overcome the difference and still be with him. Around Feburary things started falling apart. We broke up and I found out he had gotten back together with his ex girlfriend, they dated for a while and then we got back into contact with one another, the last 8 months we have been seeing eachother again. Things are strange though because he has a SERIOUS issue with commitment, and settling down, which stems from his childhood, sometimes its like walking on egg shells around him because I am affraid to lose him again, and I can swear he has a personality disorder because one minute he is loving and happy and the next he could care less if we ever talked again, Its is SOOO simple for him to forget people and not talk to him and not care, again he is 34 and I am so affraid that he is going to die a lonely person. I do EVERYTHING in the world for him, and would continue to, to +*~$_&#@%@)#!&+ ure his happiness. I just WISH he would SEE THAT! He doesn’t and he takes me for granit and does not see that we are good together, and can make things work. Please if you have any insight on my issues I would greatly appreciate it. Also, is there anyway to know ahead of time when the casting call for Tool Academy 3 will be available? Because I have watched them guys on there open up and get ALOT of great things from tool academy. I think this is what “K” needs but he won’t take any iniciative to do anything about it. I am a major in Human Services and Chemical Dependency Counseling… With the goals of becoming a counselor for troubled children, and its sad to think that, I’m pretty sure this is were the problems started for the man I am speaking of. Also Trina I would like to mention you do GREAT things, and are amazing at what you do, Keep up the good work I know myself and many other really appreciate it! So A BIG THANK YOU!
Sincerely.
SNO
November 3rd, 2009 at 4:42 pm
I am sure you are really busy and get a ton of mail all the time, so if you can not touch on my issue I totally understand. I have been dating this guy on and off now for almost 4 years, I am 23 and he is 34. I fell in love with him within 2 months of dating. He is the ONLY man I have EVER loved. After 2 months of dating he had to leave for Alabama for his job to help clean up Hurricane Katrina. It broke my heart, but I DID continue the relationship with him, waitied for him, and was totally faithful. When he got back things were a little different but I loved him and was able to overcome the difference and still be with him. Around Feburary things started falling apart. We broke up and I found out he had gotten back together with his ex girlfriend, they dated for a while and then we got back into contact with one another, the last 8 months we have been seeing eachother again. Things are strange though because he has a SERIOUS issue with commitment, and settling down, which stems from his childhood, sometimes its like walking on egg shells around him because I am affraid to lose him again, and I can swear he has a personality disorder because one minute he is loving and happy and the next he could care less if we ever talked again, Its is SOOO simple for him to forget people and not talk to him and not care, again he is 34 and I am so affraid that he is going to die a lonely person. I do EVERYTHING in the world for him, and would continue to, to $%!$@)*!`&&^`@( ure his happiness. I just WISH he would SEE THAT! He doesn’t and he takes me for granit and does not see that we are good together, and can make things work. Please if you have any insight on my issues I would greatly appreciate it. Also, is there anyway to know ahead of time when the casting call for Tool Academy 3 will be available? Because I have watched them guys on there open up and get ALOT of great things from tool academy. I think this is what “K” needs but he won’t take any iniciative to do anything about it. I am a major in Human Services and Chemical Dependency Counseling… With the goals of becoming a counselor for troubled children, and its sad to think that, I’m pretty sure this is were the problems started for the man I am speaking of. Also Trina I would like to mention you do GREAT things, and are amazing at what you do, Keep up the good work I know myself and many other really appreciate it! So A BIG THANK YOU!
Sincerely.
SNO
November 3rd, 2009 at 4:43 pm
I am sure you are really busy and get a ton of mail all the time, so if you can not touch on my issue I totally understand. I have been dating this guy on and off now for almost 4 years, I am 23 and he is 34. I fell in love with him within 2 months of dating. He is the ONLY man I have EVER loved. After 2 months of dating he had to leave for Alabama for his job to help clean up Hurricane Katrina. It broke my heart, but I DID continue the relationship with him, waitied for him, and was totally faithful. When he got back things were a little different but I loved him and was able to overcome the difference and still be with him. Around Feburary things started falling apart. We broke up and I found out he had gotten back together with his ex girlfriend, they dated for a while and then we got back into contact with one another, the last 8 months we have been seeing eachother again. Things are strange though because he has a SERIOUS issue with commitment, and settling down, which stems from his childhood, sometimes its like walking on egg shells around him because I am affraid to lose him again, and I can swear he has a personality disorder because one minute he is loving and happy and the next he could care less if we ever talked again, Its is SOOO simple for him to forget people and not talk to him and not care, again he is 34 and I am so affraid that he is going to die a lonely person. I do EVERYTHING in the world for him, and would continue to, to *&&$*@_&$`@`$~+ ure his happiness. I just WISH he would SEE THAT! He doesn’t and he takes me for granit and does not see that we are good together, and can make things work. Please if you have any insight on my issues I would greatly appreciate it. Also, is there anyway to know ahead of time when the casting call for Tool Academy 3 will be available? Because I have watched them guys on there open up and get ALOT of great things from tool academy. I think this is what “K” needs but he won’t take any iniciative to do anything about it. I am a major in Human Services and Chemical Dependency Counseling… With the goals of becoming a counselor for troubled children, and its sad to think that, I’m pretty sure this is were the problems started for the man I am speaking of. Also Trina I would like to mention you do GREAT things, and are amazing at what you do, Keep up the good work I know myself and many other really appreciate it! So A BIG THANK YOU!
Sincerely.
SNO
November 3rd, 2009 at 4:43 pm
I am sure you are really busy and get a ton of mail all the time, so if you can not touch on my issue I totally understand. I have been dating this guy on and off now for almost 4 years, I am 23 and he is 34. I fell in love with him within 2 months of dating. He is the ONLY man I have EVER loved. After 2 months of dating he had to leave for Alabama for his job to help clean up Hurricane Katrina. It broke my heart, but I DID continue the relationship with him, waitied for him, and was totally faithful. When he got back things were a little different but I loved him and was able to overcome the difference and still be with him. Around Feburary things started falling apart. We broke up and I found out he had gotten back together with his ex girlfriend, they dated for a while and then we got back into contact with one another, the last 8 months we have been seeing eachother again. Things are strange though because he has a SERIOUS issue with commitment, and settling down, which stems from his childhood, sometimes its like walking on egg shells around him because I am affraid to lose him again, and I can swear he has a personality disorder because one minute he is loving and happy and the next he could care less if we ever talked again, Its is SOOO simple for him to forget people and not talk to him and not care, again he is 34 and I am so affraid that he is going to die a lonely person. I do EVERYTHING in the world for him, and would continue to, to $#((~$+_*$+%%_$ ure his happiness. I just WISH he would SEE THAT! He doesn’t and he takes me for granit and does not see that we are good together, and can make things work. Please if you have any insight on my issues I would greatly appreciate it. Also, is there anyway to know ahead of time when the casting call for Tool Academy 3 will be available? Because I have watched them guys on there open up and get ALOT of great things from tool academy. I think this is what “K” needs but he won’t take any iniciative to do anything about it. I am a major in Human Services and Chemical Dependency Counseling… With the goals of becoming a counselor for troubled children, and its sad to think that, I’m pretty sure this is were the problems started for the man I am speaking of. Also Trina I would like to mention you do GREAT things, and are amazing at what you do, Keep up the good work I know myself and many other really appreciate it! So A BIG THANK YOU!
Sincerely.
SNO
November 3rd, 2009 at 4:48 pm
I am sure you are really busy and get a ton of mail all the time, so if you can not touch on my issue I totally understand. I have been dating this guy on and off now for almost 4 years, I am 23 and he is 34. I fell in love with him within 2 months of dating. He is the ONLY man I have EVER loved. After 2 months of dating he had to leave for Alabama for his job to help clean up Hurricane Katrina. It broke my heart, but I DID continue the relationship with him, waitied for him, and was totally faithful. When he got back things were a little different but I loved him and was able to overcome the difference and still be with him. Around Feburary things started falling apart. We broke up and I found out he had gotten back together with his ex girlfriend, they dated for a while and then we got back into contact with one another, the last 8 months we have been seeing eachother again. Things are strange though because he has a SERIOUS issue with commitment, and settling down, which stems from his childhood, sometimes its like walking on egg shells around him because I am affraid to lose him again, and I can swear he has a personality disorder because one minute he is loving and happy and the next he could care less if we ever talked again, Its is SOOO simple for him to forget people and not talk to him and not care, again he is 34 and I am so affraid that he is going to die a lonely person. I do EVERYTHING in the world for him, and would continue to, to &(#(!`(%!~`!@^+ ure his happiness. I just WISH he would SEE THAT! He doesn’t and he takes me for granit and does not see that we are good together, and can make things work. Please if you have any insight on my issues I would greatly appreciate it. Also, is there anyway to know ahead of time when the casting call for Tool Academy 3 will be available? Because I have watched them guys on there open up and get ALOT of great things from tool academy. I think this is what “K” needs but he won’t take any iniciative to do anything about it. I am a major in Human Services and Chemical Dependency Counseling… With the goals of becoming a counselor for troubled children, and its sad to think that, I’m pretty sure this is were the problems started for the man I am speaking of. Also Trina I would like to mention you do GREAT things, and are amazing at what you do, Keep up the good work I know myself and many other really appreciate it! So A BIG THANK YOU!
Sincerely.
SNO
November 6th, 2009 at 12:27 am
my boyfriend and i have been together for 2 years now. starting out we got along, he was romantic, and acted like i was his whole world. we break up often, but we always end back together. but for the week or so we are apart i dont talk to guys, cause i know were just going to end up back together, but him on the other hand he talks too women constantly,lies,trys to deny everything i know hes doing. i love him, but sometimes he makes me feel like im so stupid. he blames everything on me, when he does something wrong and cant make up an excuse for doing it, e trows up my past in my face. even when were not argueing he still does it and dont realize it.. i think im always right, and he thinks hes always right. its like no matter what i do im in the wrong, please help me.. how can my tool be in the tool academy.
thank you so much