Jennifer’s Side Of Sober House – Episode 7

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Jennifer Gimenez’s Sober House commentary continues! Below, the house mother talks about allowing Seth back into the house, her reservations regarding Mary’s gig at Swingfest, her own one-woman show and what it was like, as a recovering cocaine addict, to be given crack rock to hold in her hand.

How did you feel about Seth reentering the house?

When I knew he was coming back I was like, “Let’s see how it goes.” I really believe that when somebody relapses, it’s not just that person that relapses. I was really affected. I think the whole house was, really. You saw them crying, and worrying, and scared, and fearful and then it ended up feeling like a game and I was angry that a) I got caught up, b) that everyone else got caught up, and c) I felt like he didn’t take it seriously. When Seth came back, he acted like it was cool: “Oh no everything fine. I’m not gonna do it again.” I was scared for him. I still am scared for him.

Were you as concerned about Seth coming back as you were when Steven did?

When you saw Steven come back, he was more than willing to come back. He was very apologetic. I just felt like that Seth wasn’t. I don’t know if he saw the severity of it. Everyone has their own way of relapsing and everyone is different. Bottom line: they’re hurting. I’m so fond of everyone on the show and to care so much and not have that person reciprocating and going to any lengths to get better, it really freaks me out. I was really scared ’cause this happened toward the end of the stay at the Sober House for Seth. My fear for him was: what’s going to happen when he leaves Sober House? He has maybe a few more days left and then what? When your time is done at Sober House, how did you benefit from that experience? How did you grow and learn and set boundaries and have that resonate in your brain, in your mind, in your body, in your soul, in your spirit, in every breath you take? What is Seth’s next move? How far is far for him? Is death far enough? Is becoming a vegetable far enough? What is that place? We gave him all the ability, and the tools, at that point to take the fork in the road, what path do you want, left or the right? Time will tell.

Mary gets invited to host Swingfest. What were you thinking about that? It just seems like the worst possible thing she could do.

I can’t stop someone from making a living, but I can definitely give them my opinion. I can tell her I know it’s not the Swingfest that per se gets her in trouble, it’s how she feels about those situations and the jobs she has taken. Does it make her feel uncomfortable? Does it belittle her? Does it belittle anybody? Has swinging on a pole, doing porn, doing Swingfest affected her? Yes. Its not like I’m just assuming this, I mean we’ve been watching it since the first season of Celebrity Rehab. She says she doesn’t want to do porn again, that she doesn’t want to do the adult world anymore. She’s says she is a “former” star in the adult world.

I feel that right now is a crucial time for her to just stay put to get some foundation before she goes and chooses whatever direction she wants to go in, in her profession, in her personal life, in her professional life, in her any kind of life. I really believe it because of my experience. Over and over, through the last 10 years I’ve done it both ways. I’ve gone back to my jobs, back to what I needed to make money in, and then I’ve also had to sit the f*** down and get through recovery.

Though it was a crucial time for Mary at that point, I know the money was really good and I know her responsibilities with her mother are really important. So I told her that if she did decide to do Swingfest – and she did – that she should take somebody that would guide her to the right way and support her. A mentor, a sober companion. I still don’t go to certain parties without somebody who I know has my back. I went to the Oscar stuff this week. I had somebody everyday with me, sober.

You really got extremely angry at Seth during paintball. Where was that anger coming from?

I had never Paintballed before. None of us had. There were a lot of emotions built up at this point. It doesn’t matter the length of time you’ve been sober. If you get pushed enough in life, at some point you’re going to react. At that point, I was coming off a six-day run with Seth. He comes up and shoots me a few times in the leg, and it really hurt. I went into a panic mode and then I got angry. Like, “Why would you do that?” I’m sure he thought he was being funny, but it hurt. I know it doesn’t come off super cool or super put-together, but everyone has a breaking point.

It seems like another one could have been when Seth came to you with crack. What was it like dealing with that?

I don’t know where Seth kept his drugs. I don’t know how he got that. But Seth came to me and gave it to me. Immediately. I don’t do crack, but I was a cocaine addict. The scene kind of shows my weakness. Ultimately, he did the right thing by giving it to me. That’s what we do: we tell on ourselves in recovery. He came to the person he knew that had the most time, and I think it was a really great thing that he did.

You sit down with Dr. Sophy and he suggests that you return to acting. Where are you with that?

In real life, sober living managers live their lives. They go to work. They check everything regarding with the house when they’re done with their day. I’m an actress. I was a model. When Andy came in, he really focused on my creativity. Dr. Sophy agreed – he told me, “It’s time for the next phase in your recovery.” He told me to stop hiding behind recovery and pursue my dreams. He thought that doing a one-woman show and telling my story would be a great way of testing to see if acting is really what I want to do. Recovery was my foundation and I worked hard for that foundation. But I need to live my life.

Did you end up performing?

Yep. I put together a 40-minute one-woman show in two days, directed by Andy. He said it would normally take three months to do it. You know when you know that you know? That’s what it felt like for me. I touched on my deep issues. We all in life have a story to tell. I finally felt worthy of telling my story.
Check out what Dr. Drew had to say about this week’s episode here.

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  1. Kassady W. says:

    I’m so inspired by this series. I am not an addict myself, but I have floundered, with no direction in my life or use for my psychology degree. I now know what I want to do and that is to help those in recovery. Best of luck to everybody!

  2. bella says:

    I don’t think she realizes how special she really is. She’s not only such a beautiful girl she is really smart and so humble. I would love to see her do more future Sober House shows, other reality shows or mentoring shows on TV. She has a big story and clearly can reach many, many different people across a large demograhic span struggling with issues. My best wishes and prayers for your success darling….you do deserve it.

  3. Cindy says:

    there always is at least one addict/alcoholic who will really drag everyone down and that definetely seems to be seth. this is hollywood but still these are people’s lives that are being messed with. rodney and andy appear to be the only sincere ones in the show. and especially rodney has really humbled himself and appears to be a realy success from his treatment.

  4. Kelly says:

    I’m gripped by Nikki’s challenges as my mother died of her addiction almost one year ago. I found her in her apartment about one week after she’d passed away. The one year anniversary of her death arrives in several weeks and I find I’m still quite raw and living on the edge sometimes.

  5. Angie says:

    I think that Jen is a wonderful, strong woman. She has the power to do whatever she wants. Ive been in recovery for 3 yrs and Ive never felt better. I think she is a life saver and I will always remember her for what she has done for not just the celebs on the show, but myself and others also! We love u Jen

    Angie (Marion, IN)

  6. Debi Boatman says:

    I don’t even know where to start…..maybe with just a small reach out to the people who are still ALIVE…to remember those that are gone due to the lifestyle they lead….SETH……we both knew Charlie Lopez aka Rust Epique, 1st came drugs, then came a little money, a little fame, and POOF he’s gone…..you know my name…you know my family….they alll went POOF!!! you’re someone’s DAD….keep it real!!!!

  7. bob says:

    ANDY *)!_#&(#((%*@*)) what’s up buddy, ur hilarious and just as funny sober as you are drunk i thought i heard somebody talking crap about you after you guys were done paintballing, anyways love the show im hooked, ”it’s like a drug”

  8. amy says:

    i hope everything goes well for everyone!

  9. tip says:

    I can NOT stand jen, she has got to go. I really like the show but I’m going to have to stop watching it till they replace her. I had my relationship with drugs for a while I’ve been clean now for a few years but if I had to clean up with jen around I don’t think I could have done it. Jen for the sake of sobriety PLEASE get a job some where else so I can see what happens to the rest of the house

  10. Bob F says:

    I think Jen has the toughest job in the world and I couldn’t do it. I mean, how can an untrained professional deal with A personalities like Seth and Steven, people who were taken advantage of like Mary and Amber and quiet types like Rodney, all in one house and aiming at one goal. It is just too hard for one person and I wish her a lot of luck.

  11. Sad Joyce says:

    A mutual friend got us together. Natalie was 7 1/2 mo. pregnant and trying to stay clean. I was asked to help her. She still needed to shop for the baby and get the nursery together and time was running out. We really became fast friends and had so much fun shopping and sharing with each other. Her husband Pete was 62yr. old and was finally going to have that son he had always wanted. Jr. was born a month early in October 2007, a little small but cute as a button.
    It wasn’t long after his Christening when Nat came to my house one night at 12:30am, asking me if I had anything for a migraine, and she didn’t mean aspirin. She spent Jr.’s first Christmas in jail for possession. Slowly she came around less and less, but I kept in touch.
    Yesterday, I was shopping at Walmart and I ran into Nat’s husband Pete and the baby. He said to me, “You know she’s gone ya know”. I’m like, “Whaddya mean she’s gone, gone where?”. Pete’s eyes watered as he related to me about how he had found her dead on the bathroom floor the day before with a needle in her arm. She was 33yr.old. When I got home God and I had a serious discussion! I am tired of going to funerals, and this one is particularly painful. I KNOW that she did not think that she was going to die that morning. None of us really thinks that our number is up on any given day. We always think that we’re smarter, better, luckier, or whatever. BUT WE”RE NOT! Can you hear me Seth? Amber? Steven? Mary? Andy? Nikki? Rodney? Please hear me!!!

  12. scotty r says:

    Listen, I hate to say this,or perhaps I’m dying to say this…..but the mini-skirts, the bizarre emotional squalls, the lack of training, and sanity, are so in evidence in that house, I don’t know why people aren’t running out of the place with their hair on fire.
    If nothing else, people can see how crazy recovery life is, how simple it is not, how ineffective it often is.

    Shouldn’t someone being pulling someone up a little short on this and saying, outloud (and not just with the clever editing and view of the documentary makers), that this is the craziest, unstable, and possibly the most dangerous group to drop anchor in.

    Well meaning people, no matter how sincere, are doing soul surgery with an axe.
    Scott R

  13. Robbi says:

    I have been trying to get on the famous friends web site for – forever can anyone help me?

  14. Renee says:

    Jen…I think she’s great! I believe she’s doing the best that she can. I understand having to take care of someone who is trying to recover from crack. My brother in law stayed with us for 3 months to “find himself”. He reminds me of Seth. You want him to do well but then he falls. All you can do he to encourage the positve and help him with the negative. And lots of praying.

    Jen, keep on keeping on. Stay strong willed.

    Heavenly Father, I pray for the whole house that God will protect Jen and the others and pour the blood of Jesus over them. That no weapon formed against them is going to prosper. I pray that the demons over everyone is gone. Father thank you for this show as it’s helping others and I pray for them as well. In Jesus name’ Amen.

  15. Tian says:

    Does anyone know where I can purchase the dining room chairs that are in the Sober Living House? They are wood black and have a kindof Asian look to them.

    Thanks!

  16. BobF says:

    In a previous comment, scotty r mentioned that running this house is like doing “surgery with an ax’. Having worked with the homeless and being totally unprepared for that venture, I understand that sentiment.

    However, if you look at sober house as being being a step in a stepped process – similar to the stepped process to provide sheltar for homeless – than I still see great benefits from this show and this type of therapy.

    Jen is an untrained professional trying to do something that few, if any, have that guts to do. It’s one thing to spend a day or weekend with an addict and quite another to live with, bond with and love a group who have such diverse backgrounds and problems.

    Although Dr. Drew, a true hero in my eyes, is available for extreme counseling, I believe these folks need him on a more regular basis – I think Jen needs him too.

    I wish all good luck in this quest.

  17. Mimi says:

    I still think that David needs to take some ownership in what has happened to Seth, and by no means is he GOOD for Mary. He continues to put her and the others down. How can that be good for anyone? He needs to be banned from the house!

    I am impressed with Andy and of course Rodney, he is the King! I think these two have a strong chance of making it because their hearts seem sincere, but I want them all to make it.

    Jen is great!

  18. TBEAR says:

    I can’t agree more with Scotty r’s blog. I have been wondering how any of these folks will succeed and why it’s okay for the house Mom to walk around half naked and acting inappropriate w/ those in sober living under her care. Not only should certain people not be allowed in that house, more restriction should be in place and less of a “friendly” relationship w/ those in charge vs. those who act like they are in charge. It’s very sad. You want them all to make it, but then you question how it’s all being played out.

  19. Denise says:

    YOU GO GIRL!!!

    I don’t know any of you but I have been praying for all of you including Dr. Drew, Will, and the guy with the cool Indiana Jones hat (Bob?).

    There are many more addictions than drugs, alcohol, cigarettes, sex,shopping, gambling, ^*+*$&$)_#_(~@^# ding, pornography. I am a delivered food addict, and The Lord’s Holy Spirit did it.

    I am praying that God will remove the memory and the taste of the drugs and alcohol from everyone who is really sick and tired of being sick and tired of these chemicals that we seem to abuse our bodies with.

    I am pulling for all of you to make it to so sustained sobriety beyond your wildest dreams. I pray that you all be in health and prosper even as your soul prospers.

    Every one of you hang in there, don’t forget to pray, and fight tooth and nail for sobriety, there are more people pulling for you to make it than there are that want to see you stay down.

    Tell Mary to just pray to Jesus and He will remove all of her stumbling blcoks and at the same time send her some help with her mom.

    Jesus is the answer to all of our problems if we just let him!!

    Peace!!!!!

  20. nancy matos says:

    i just want to say thank you for this public sober house show i was myself in a 28 day rehab for drinking and cocaine/crack ive been sober now for almost 2yrs when i came out this show was on and has helped me a great deal i really feel for all of you guys and i do pray that you hold on to your sobriety i am still attending group counseling and one on one its been really hard but i got in trouble with the law and really was sick and tired of all the craziness lots of prayers for you guys stay strong love you mary leave that #^*)+^*#@##*^!! hes no good you are a beautiful person stay that way

  21. Christin says:

    It breaks my heart watching Mary with her boyfriend. I really hope she ends it with him – she needs to for her own sanity. He is horrible to her and with her, not only does he tempt her with alcohol but he pushes her to end her sobriety.

    I’ve seen David on other reality shows – he really is a bad person. There must be some other agent/manager to represent her who has been through some kind of rehab, etc. She needs someone to care for her, not exploit her.

    Isn’t there somewhere that all of you guys could rent together and create your own sober house? I feel everyone needs a support system and some people just don’t have it. Mary needs better people surrounding her. I am really worried for her. She needs someone with a heart and soul. I hope she can live with some of the people with whom she’s attending sober house with.

  22. JerseyCityGirl says:

    Hello,
    I think this show is a joke. Its not fair to put Jennifer Gimenez in the house all alone to deal with recovering drug addicts who have a history of manipulative, addictive, and impulsive behavior. I honestly believe Jennifer is not safe inside that house all by herself. If Dr. Drew was really a professional who wanted these people to recover in a safe environment, he would of never put Jennifer in that house all alone. Dr. Drew knows better than that! Jennifer needs at least 2 other people in that house helping her, preferably men!!!! And these 2 people should be trained and certified drug and alcohol counselors.

    I think Dr. Drew is really interested in keeping interested in watching the show by promoting a situation which is not in the best interest of recovering addicts and definitely not safe!!!!

  23. James says:

    I couldn’t agree more with Jerseycitygirl.
    There is a fine line between helping junkies/drunks and putting on a good show.
    Dr. Drew has crossed the line. He is way too interested in putting out a good product with the show. Hell, the very act of putting this on the air flies in the face of proper care of these “celebrity” train wrecks.

  24. Dean says:

    Please please please dear god stop coving or showing anything with Jennifer in it. she is not compelling, interesting or an any manner entertaining at all. stick with the clelbs and please please please i beg you guys no more Jennifer…she sucks