First of all…
…whoa! You mad, huh?
Picking right up from last week’s superlatives…
Most Likely To Kiss the Rain – Taylor
She’s got the cap for it at least. Props to Steve for being comfortable enough with his masculinity to make a Strawberry Shortcake comparison in reference to this.
Least Likely To Be Familiar With a Sack - Stasha
The Serbian ice queen resists the football challenge up announcement because, as a European, she doesn’t do American football: “I wouldn’t even call it a sport. I would call it what the f*** is going on?” You know, she kinda has a point…
Most Likely To Mix Up Her Contact Sports - Arian
I mean, really.
Most Likely To Be Confused for Jambi - Stasha
Just make sure your wish is European enough to suit her. You don’t want her to mekka-lekka hi mekka slap a ho.
Most Likely To Be Bought With a Flower – Everyone!
They all howled when Ryan presented Jessa with one before their date. That’s girls for ya, suckers for plant life.
Most Likely To Plead Guilty By Reason of Silicone - Arian
During her totally insane date, she could be heard saying, “If you were like bitch you’re crazy, I’d be like, but I got some huge t**s!” Hard to say if that quote is more memorable than this one…
You might say it’s Tough Love‘s toughest call.
Most Likely To Euphemize – Taylor
On Arian’s bar-side manner, Taylor said, “I think Arian was giving her date some kind of sexy handshake underneath that table.”
I’m pretty sure that what Arian was shaking wasn’t anything like a hand.
Most Likely To Kill Your Buzz - Steve
In the middle of a game of bar trivia full of innocuous questions about pop culture and sports, Steve interrupted with some questions about his relationship boot camp. Insert deflated trombone sound here (waah-waaaaaaaaaaah).
Most Likely To Score – Jacklyn
I’m talking about in bowling! Arian already has the other “score” covered. Although…
…she doesn’t have it monopolized.
Most Likely To Hit a Cameraman – Jody
Even after watching the rest of the episode, during which Jody calmed down, her hysterical reaction to her date asking why she’s still single is confusing. Sure, being single is obviously something she wants to work on and it thus follows that it may be a sensitive subject for her…but a tantrum after a question that didn’t have to be interpreted offensively? Seriously?
Least Likely To Understand the Way Things Work – Everybody
Uh, girls?
We can still see you. You can hold up a blanket, but you can’t hide. You’re there to have your lives taped, remember? Where there’s a will, there’s a guy with a camera.
Most Likely To Talk Some Sense Into These Women - Steve’s Mom
She was wonderfully patient with Jody (who, much to her credit, was able to accept a point of view other than her own) as she presented her own interpretation of the situation: Jody’s date simply thought she was too good to be true and the question was one out of disbelief, not malice.
Most Out-of-Place - Stasha
She’s in love with a guy she met a week before coming on this show? That sounds more like easy love than tough love!
Most Likely To Concede Just a Little Bit - Taylor
She reported that her date had bad breath and was “rancid,” but she didn’t do “the normal Taylor thing because he was such a nice guy.” So basically, instead of telling him this to his face, she told a nation of TV viewers. Yay for progress?
Most Likely To Masturbate (Apparently) – Arian
For some reason, I thought last week’s sex-toy play was a joke. Guess not. Funny that she says she’s losing her mind from having to masturbate all the time — it used to be a “cure” for hysteria. How times have changed!
Oh, and then she freaked out after Steve told her if she kept up her promiscuous behavior, she was going to get raped or an STD. How WTF was that whole thing?
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| 108 | Full Episode | Videos: Season Finale | 5/04/09 |
| 108 | Bonus Clips | Videos: Finale Bonus Scenes | 5/03/09 |
| 108 | Show Clips | Videos: Finale Show Clips | 5/03/09 |
| 107 | Full Episode | Videos: Return of the Exes | 4/27/09 |
| 107 | Bonus Clips | Videos: Episode 7 Bonus Scenes | 4/26/09 |
| 107 | Show Clips | Videos: Episode 7 Show Clips | 4/26/09 |
| 107 | Music Videos | Videos: As Heard on VH1: Anjulie "Boom" | 4/24/09 |
| 106 | Show Clips | Videos: Episode 6 Show Clips | 4/21/09 |
| 106 | Full Episode | Videos: Dirty Little Secrets | 4/20/09 |
| 106 | Bonus Clips | Videos: Episode 6 Bonus Scenes | 4/19/09 |
| 105 | Full Episode | Videos: Dollars and Sex | 4/13/09 |
| 105 | Show Clips | Videos: Episode 5 Show Clips | 4/13/09 |
| 102 | Music Videos | Videos: As Heard on VH1: Gabriella Cilmi "Save the Lies" | 4/13/09 |
| 103 | Music Videos | Videos: As Heard on VH1: Gabriella Cilmi "Sweet About Me" | 4/13/09 |
| 106 | Music Videos | Videos: As Heard on VH1: Erin McCarley "Love, Save the Empty" | 4/13/09 |
| 105 | Bonus Clips | Videos: Episode 5 Bonus Scenes | 4/12/09 |
| 104 | Show Clips | Videos: Episode 4 Show Clips | 4/05/09 |
| 104 | Bonus Clips | Videos: Episode 4 Bonus Scenes | 4/05/09 |
| 103 | Full Episode | Videos: Sex and the Male Brain | 3/30/09 |
| 103 | Show Clips | Videos: Episode 3 Show Clips | 3/29/09 |
| 103 | Bonus Clips | Videos: Episode 3 Bonus Scenes | 3/29/09 |
| 102 | Full Episode | Videos: Red Flags and White Lies | 3/23/09 |
| 102 | Show Clips | Videos: Episode 2 Show Clips | 3/23/09 |
| 102 | Bonus Clips | Videos: Episode 2 Bonus Scenes | 3/22/09 |
| 101 | Bonus Clips | Videos: Episode 1 Bonus Scenes | 3/15/09 |
| 101 | Full Episode | Videos: What Men Really Think | 3/13/09 |
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| -- | Show Clips | Videos: Tough Love Episode 7: Sneak Peek | 04/23/09 |
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48 responses to to VH1 Tough Love Recap – Episode 4 Superlatives
jody shouldnt be upset . ~#_^$@(!~((`!^+@ that dude. why is he asking her why shes single, why is he single, what a bozo.
BRET THE BEST THING FOR YOU TO DO IS STAY SINGLE. LESS HEADACHE!!!!
i like this show its better than that stupid tool academy i didnt watch that. but judy flip out for no reason at all. that guy is so nice. n arian omg girl shouldnt be on this show she knew the deal can we say slut
ARIAN is cool. She just needs a pimp or porn producer in her life, because she is a HOE. People shouldn’t get it confused she likes the attention and of course the sex. She’ll be collecting her NEW STARLET award at the AVN soon. I’m in her corner 100%. At least she keeps it real she likes it and she’ll let you have her if you can stand it.
I have just finished watching the last episode and I think all women deserve an apology from Steve. He said that one girl’s actions were going to get her raped. As a women and an advocate for sexually +*`~$%%~~+%@%+* aulted women this is horribly offensive. No woman ever asks to be raped. The types of statements like the one Steve made are the reasons why lawyers don’t follow through on convictions because they can say “well, what was she wearing? or “Well did she flirt with him?”. Steve needs to study more on sensitive topics like sexual +*`~$%%~~+%@%+* ault before he makes statements like that. Steve also put some fear into the other women, making them agree with him that she could put her self in a position to be raped. How valid can we take Steve’s advice if he makes sexist, insensitive, comments like that. He needs to remember that he is a role model. Steve, if you read this, April is Sexual +*`~$%%~~+%@%+* ault Awareness month. Get educated.
she flipped for no reasn she took it wrong!!
I demand that Steve Ward and all connected with the show apologize for Ward saying that Arian or others like her will end up raped. Rape is not about sex; it’s about anger, rage, and power. Ward’s thinking is dangerous misogynistic mythology.
http://twolia.com/blogs/relationship-underarm-stick/2009/04/06/giving-steve-ward-vh1-some-tough-love-of-my-own/
You “Tough Love” viewers don’t seem to get it: Jody’s date kept asking her why she was single despite her telling him it was upsetting her. Let’s overlook the fact that her “breakdown” was confusing to some of you and consider that the badgering by her date was upsetting and uncalled her. He just kept at it and didn’t explain where he was going with his questioning, leaving Jody to ~)*`$$(*&%^~@%_ ume he was being negative. See? Does that make sense?
Regarding Arian: she’s NOT a slut, she’s been hurt and doesn’t understand how to deal with her issues so she uses her sexiness, whether it’s to protect herself or whatever. If you apply psychology rather than name-calling, this show will make more sense.
And Steve: as he explained to the rest of the girls when Arian walked off, he was saying that Arian could create a situation with her sexuality in which a man could go further than she might want to, leading to rape. Steve was cautioning her, not calling her a slut, and he wasn’t BLAMING her if she ever was raped. There was no “blaming the victim” attitude in him; he was just saying that Arian’s openness could attract the wrong type of guy and get her in a situation that COULD lead to rape. Ok? Do you understand the difference between a warning and potential blaming?
Please, viewers: use some compassion and intelligence.
True Arian is in denial, but Ward was out of line comparing her actions to being in any way comparable to rape. I too demand correction, apology, and training for those involved who clearly don’t know what rape is.
I am getting into this show. If there is an award for reality shows, perhaps this show should be considered. Script or no script pretty decent stuff. Unlike the same “ol same ol” in terms of vH1 reality shows. The variety of characters seem to make the show interesting. A 39 year old self sufficient single woman, the sweet on the outside girl with a little edge, the so so gold digger girl that is changing each week and on and on. Not bad….Drew Barrymore.
Why did that ugly man jody had to go out with ask her why she is still single?
She could turn around and ask him why did he get divorced!
That man is old and ugly and i think jody should be placed with a new guy!!
I can’t believe all of these people getting pissed off at Steve for stating the obvious. He did not say what he said about Arian’s behavior putting her at risk for rape and STDs out of malice. He said it as a concerned friend. He seems like a good guy and he obviously didn’t mean that promiscuous women ask for rape. That is just ridiculous, he meant that she needs to be more careful with how she carries herself because she is more likely to run into a guy who thinks that she is asking for it. Rape is NEVER the victims fault, but if you don’t want to become a victim you have to take precautions and even then it might not work. Women need to become more aware of how some men think and how to protect themselves. It’s not fair that it is our responsibility, but if we don’t look out for ourselves nobody else will. And having a brutally honest person like Steve around is to everyone’s benefit and I hope that at least some women out their understood what he meant and took it to heart.
Why is there no ring on the matchmaker’s finger? Usually an expert in a field has personal experience with the subject about which they teach. Steve obviously knows a lot about dating, about women, and about how men see women. So why isn’t HE married? He’s handsome, smart, successful. Seems like a catch. So what’s the catch?… does he have the same “white knight, swoop in and save them” problem that we hear Natasha has?
… and speaking of Natasha, is she actually ON this show?
I can’t blame Jody. To have a man not get off a subject that bothers you is the most uncomfortable thing on a date. The fact he didn’t let up on her is awful. He didn’t have to push her for an answer. He could have asked that she think about it and tell him next time instead of pushing.
I’ve been in positions like that before and I could definitly sympathize with Jody.
As a survivor of a sexual $*`%#`~(@!^##`* ault I am horrified at some of the comments made by Steve Ward. I understand (and completely agree with) the statement about STD’s, but to suggest that Arian’s behavior is going to get her raped is not only wrong it’s problematic. I wonder if Steve Ward thinks that rape victims, and victims of other sexual $*`%#`~(@!^##`* aults some how asked to be attacked via their actions, behaviors and demeanor? I wonder if Steve thinks, that the victims “deserved” what they got? I wonder if Steve knows anyone who has been a victim of such a heinous crime? I wonder if Steve thinks that I deserved or asked to be $*`%#`~(@!^##`* aulted? I also want to know what Steve thinks us women should do to prevent $*`%#`~(@!^##`* aults from happening to us.
Re: Jody
Yes the guy didn’t intend to upset her he should have posed his question a little bit more benignly (You’re so fantastic, why are you still single?) and he definitely should have realized that he needed to stop his harangue.
That said – Jody goes out of her way to `&!*_!&^!~&~&!@ ume the worst… case in point: the guy reveals that “he lied and has two men in life life” and Jody starts to gets angry, takes a nasty tone, and says “well just tell me…”. Of course it was as a joke set up and the 2nd man is a his dog.
Jody – you are an extremely successful and pretty hot babe… relax a little and try to have some fun. (Yeah I’m sure she’s beeen hurt in life, blah blah blah). We all have. Get over it.
Re: Arian the slut
Deep deep issues that dating boot camp is not goign to resolve. She needs counseling ASAP for lack of esteem and probably sex addiction. She sees only the worst in men… Does it surprise anyone that when you strip, dance on a pole, and give lap dances that’s what you see? It should be pretty obvious that if you want men to respect you, you can’t act like a total slut like this.
Jody should be set up with a different guy. Her date is not up to her caliber. And he doesn’t seem like the brightest bulb. Jody stated her preference for younger men, and we saw why she should date younger men. They are not threatened by a powerful woman because they are not competing with her. Jody does not need a man her own age who failed at everything Jody succeeded at, and now just resents her.
Arian needs help asap!
PS STASHA-shes serbian, serbia is in Europe, Russia is in ASIA..lol
omg!! shame on you guys!
Jody’s date was pushy. There is nothing more bullying than the question “why?” especially if someone insists on asking it when he has been repeatedly told you don’t want to answer it. No wonder he’s divorced. He’s either clueless or very passive aggressive and judgmental. Even if he thinks she’s too good to be single, his pushiness shows that he is someone who doesn’t allow a woman to have her thoughts.
As for rape being a crime of anger: true. But in some warped minds anger is linked with sex. And in some weird minds rape is defined as sex. We live in a world where different things turn people on. Hey, pedophiles wouldn’t consider themselves angry with children. To them rape isn’t a crime of anger. They would consider it loving sex. And in some minds a woman who shows her ~@@+#($)@%)%&%` ets is considered to be “asking for it.” Steve was good to warn her. I don’t know if there’s statistics that relate clothing styles or behavior to who gets raped and I certainly know that prissy women get raped as well as non-prissies. But there are definitely rapes by guys who think a woman is leading them on. And there are definitely rapes and stalking done to women who should not have seemed too available. In this world, a woman has to be as careful as possible. Not that Steve knows all guys but I’ll accept his idea of knows what goes on in a guy’s mind. -C
im so pissed at Jodi’s date im w/her he should not hav kept up with the questions or at least if like the mom said was in awe at the fact she’s single than his questions should have been more tackful
I can definitely understand why Jodi was upset, that question really is “what’s wrong with you?”. I think he touched upon her biggest weakness and exploited it like a tool. Obviously she’s not happy she’s single, which is why she’s there, why harp on it? What difference does the answer make? What does he expect her to say? Then he acts like an *ss and then gives her dessert so she can “calm down”? I don’t think she should give him another chance, he’s rude. He should have been apologizing immediately, not continuing to grill her in the car. She can do better.
Rape is about power & control, not about sexual availability or any tease factor — I just can’t even comprehend that anyone is defending Ward’s statements. Like Alessia, whose blog I followed to get here, I demand an apology. Ward, VH1 and any of you who don’t get what rape is all need an education. It’s views like yours that result in blaming the victim and a lack of justice.
Could you guys make a show for gay men?
There are men out there like me who would like to find true love but not have to deal with the stereotypes of gay dating and/or what people consider the lifestyle to believe…
I find way too many friends giving in to what they think the ideal gay relationship is and how that should function.
Arian is very, very sad. I feel like Steven being a man is telling her the truth but she doesn’t know how to be a woman only a slut/tramp/ho! I pray that she turns her life around and starts saving herself for true love because at the rate she’s going, she will either get a life altering disease or gang raped and then her looks will definitely take a turn for the worse.
Don’t give up on her Steven!
I think that Steve Ward is a complete %`_~~+#&#$&&`($ hole after this weekend’s episode. I can’t believe he told Arian that because of her supposedly lude behavior, that she is going to end up raped or getting a STD.
COME ON!!! For Christ’s sake – it’s the woman’s fault if she gets raped? Really? And the guy has no responsibility as to his criminal act of violence in rape. So I guess guys just lose all self control and against their will rape her because she is asking for it. Man – aren’t women powerful. This is so typical. Do you know how many decades women have been considered responsible for their getting raped? Because they supposedly incited the violent act of rage with mere words. And then, bummer – some guy loses his mind and Afghanistan? Iraq? The Moslem world? I supposed women in America should cover up like the Moslem women are forced to. And if they leave the house without a man to accompany her, they deserve being flogged right? This is pure bullshit and I think this show sucks after the matchmaker’s ignorance in making such an announcement.
I’m disgusted. Especially since I LOVE reality shows. No more Tough Love for me.
Thanks for listening.
Lori
Taylor they can say what they whatever. Your a lady when all the extra boils away , and stay greedy (looking out for you)because a man only well only make a happy person happy .And as for the old saying money cant make you happy . Tell them but it makes being lonely and sad so much better
Remember guys this show has some editing jodies date could have asked jody 3 times on their 2 hour date. they have dated 3 times he has a right to an answer or a “im not ready to talk about that maybe later”
and as for steve’s comment i agree she is putting herself in such a vulnerable state its noticing to guys who would take advantage of her. and to think someone understands why people rape like for “power or control”… you dont know that, in some cases maybe. but in some cases its purely for the sexual purposes. and if a woman goes into a bar and starts touching a man talking sexually, is going to get a mans attention. and if that man has crude intentions then he is going to act. so when she steps outside, he is going to try to pursue her and if he doesnt get what he wants then he may stalk her. now im not saying im an expert on rape im just saying that its not just “POWER AND CONTROL” its alot of things. its an unpredictable situation and its best to keep yourself safe. Same reason why strippers have body guards….
This show is about tough love. she needs to know her reactions can lead her to unfortunate situations.
so tell me if you lived on a street full of pedophiles would you take your child outside naked? no you wouldnt. nor would you talk to them about your child.
Rape is a sensitive subject for most women. but instead of trying to get on steves case for saying the word “Rape” try to learn from his tough love actions, i know i do. his words didnt make me angry and i am to a victim of rape.
I dont demand an apology, but for those who got offended he should explain what he ment a little more clear, since TV can cut out alot, maybe he did explain but they wanted more TV time for the “Drama” that arian was doing. just try to be understanding and think about it before you jump on the accusing wagon.
Steve was not trying to offend Arian. I think he was just trying to strike a nerv with her to wake her up. Not saying that rape is right, but can we get to reallity that there are crazy people in this world and if you are promoting yourself in that way, that is the type of response you will get. I completely agree with April.
I can certainly understand why Jodie was upset but it was all a big misunderstanding. Her date should have explained what he was talking about if he wanted to continue the conversation.
I’m sorry, I meant Heather.
Jody is pathetic. She thinks she’ll all that, a great catch. Are you kidding me? She’s 39 and can’t handle being asked “why are you still single?” If she’s going to have a melt down with this question, how can she handle a real situation?
Being a survivor of rape, I agree with the other comments that have asked Steve to apologize for his comment about Arian and that because of her behavior she’s probably going to be raped. I agree with Alessia – rape is not about sex; it’s about power, and this kind of thinking does support a “misogynistic mythology” about rape. Many women spend years trying to understand that it wasn’t their fault they were raped – and to have a TV personality basically say that getting raped is your fault sends a very damaging message to women, especially young women. Steve needs to address this on the show.
Jody was wearing the most EXQUIS bee necklace in the group therapy portion of this episode. Anyone know where I can find it?!?! ps: Jody is pretty fabulous… that guy she went out with would be SO LUCKY to date her!
God, I am so angry with some of the responses, I had to post again.
To all of you who are so upset with Steve, let me ask you this: is this what you will teach your daughters? That it’s okay to get drunk, dress suggestively, act in a sexually agressive manner and take home anybody you like, and nothing will ever happen to them? Many rapists are predators, just like child molestors. A child molestor will seek out a victime when he or she is most vulnerable and least able to resist. So will a rapistt; in this case, a drunk woman eager to be alone with him. Sure, the rapist is at fault, but that doesn’t make the woman less raped, beaten, emotionally scarred, dead, etc….
If you aren’t teaching your daughters how to protect themselves, you shouldn’t be a parent.
I love this show . Taylor rocked this episode. I love Arian and all the other girls and Steve too
im a victim of rape but i still agree with steve’s comment. it’s never the victim’s fault, but that still doesn’t mean we should act inappropriately. someone needed to tell arian that she was moving dowm a path that could potentially end in disaster. i wish someone had told me that.
Oh my gawd, how many Stepford wives are in here, anyway? It took 1300+ words to reply to all this misogyny.
http://twolia.com/blogs/relationship-underarm-stick/2009/04/07/more-on-moron-steve-ward-the-rape-issue/
What Steve said was completely wrong. As a woman who has been sexually abused, I find what he said to completely indefensible and horrifying. It is basically saying that women like Arian are asking to be raped. As someone said earlier, rape is not about sex it is all about power and control.
I was wondering if these single ladies were regular joe smoes. Why i asked because i happened to be reading a good housekeeping magazine and there was an article on how to save money and there were a small article by none other than Abeiola who happens to be a host on the BET network and wrote a novel?????
This show is called “Tough Love” for a reason. Steve is not really trying to sugar-coat anything. Sometimes the raw truth hurts.
re: Jodi’s date made comment about how his sister tried online dating & got married… Why did he make that comment to Jodi– his date?! Then he kept chiding her about why she was still single? Either he is clueless or Jodi needs a different hookup. Her emotional outburst was a bit over the top though. I mean she could have flipped that question back at him? Afterall how is she going to react once she is with a guy & he complains about her food… watch out for the flying utensils. Get a grip girl.
re: Arian may not be too serious about finding a real loving relationship. She insists on doing the same ol’ things & she will get the same ol’ types of guys & relationships. Alot of us women have been sexually abused/assaulted many unreported. The reality is some of us did nothing to provoke it while some of us honestly put ourselves in vulnerable positions that resulted in undesireable or embarrassing situations. Steve was just pointing out some of those risks.
re: Abiola & Jessa are beautiful, classy women. They seem so sweet & to really know what they want. Though they could use some fine tuning… I hope they find the right men to take to their mamas soon. Go girls!
re: Taylor has made progress already & I hope she stays on this right track. She may surprise everyone.
re: Stasha needs to loosen up a little & enjoy herself. She seems to be wound so tight & hard.
re: Jacklyn is so cute & sweet. She seems to have learned alot and is already on her way. I would be wonderful if her new relationship works out for good.
re: The quiet one. Come on out & play a little girl!
I love this show!!!
I gotta say, when I saw who Arian was matched up with I was like, Steven is GOOD!!!! If you know Paul, you know exactly what I’m talking about. If anyone coud genuinely accept her and possibly love her, it’d be a guy like Paul. Its too bad she builds walls to push guys away %%)~($$~_%*)^_( uming they can’t handle the truth. Arian there are guys out there that could and will be able to love you despite your past, guys that could love ya for who you are. Despite your trials you are smart and fun, you had to have risen above some of it to get where you have thus far. But you shouldn’t purposely try to scare guys off. Give them a chance, especially the great ones like Paul…. believe that there are guys emotionally mature enough to love who’s the real girl underneath it all. Steven does know what he’s doing though, I give him that. He could match up soul mates though and the mates still have to find out for themselves why they could be so great together.
I am completely offended by the rape comment on the show this week. I am in complete shock. Rape is never the victim’s fault and a woman should not be told that her behavior is going to make her “get raped”! First of all, Arian’s behavior may be inappropriate, but it is not going to CAUSE her to get raped. How do you “get raped”!?? The only thing that comment did was to enforce the idea that women somehow “deserve”, “ask for”, or “like” rape!! I demand an apology!!! Arian’s behavior may be causing her to not have a fulfilling relationship, and should be dealt with as a so. She obviously is valuing herself based on her sexuality, which is a problem and should be addressed. but she is not ASKING TO BE RAPED!!
so a guy can’t ask why a chick is single?? Give me a ~`!_(@~_+#@!$@@^ ing break. Calm down Jody. WTF is wrong with you??
I demand that Steve Ward and all connected with the show apologize for Ward saying that Arian or others like her will end up raped. Rape is not about sex; it’s about anger, rage, and power. Ward’s thinking is dangerous misogynistic mythology.
http://twolia.com/blogs/relationship-underarm-stick/2009/04/06/giving-steve-ward-vh1-some-tough-love-of-my-own/
Steve doesn’t need to apologize. It is very true that Arians behavior could get her in alot of trouble. Guys see girls like her and think that she “wants” it. Its unfortunate because u can tell shes a good person, but her behavior when out with men is disgusting. I hope she changes because she deserves to be in a healthy relationship. And for those of you throwing up the “I’ve been raped card” I’ve had an experience like that, and I can still agree with Steve.
I’m still puzzled as to why they encouraged Jodi to give that guy another chance. The issue is that he’s completely insensitive. He never picked up on how upset she was getting – he kept badgering her. For an older man, his behavior was incredibly dense.
Jodi appears to have been focusing on her career at the expense of meeting a man. I think Jodi should spend some time badgering that guy about why his ex-wife wanted to divorce him. Why did he let his marriage fail? Obviously, I realize that marriage takes two, but my point is that he should be just as miserably uncomfortable as Jodi was. She should have pursued that line of questioning all night. That guy has the sensitivity of my left pinky toe and I wish they would have encouraged her to move on. Does she need to be so desperate that she’ll date such a dope?
Steve, your comment about rape was dangerous. Rape is about power, not sex. I understand your point. Adrian is not respecting herself and so chances are high that the people she meets will not respect her either. That said, victims of rape shouldn’t be made to feel that their actions caused the crime. And that’s basically what your statement said.
Arian is beautiful girl i wish she would take Steves’ advise!!! She deserves a good man…. BTW I luv alll you )“&(@#$$&_*)!`^*% es!!!
All these “I demand Steve Ward apologize for even saying the word ‘rape’!!” comments are so ridiculous as to be almost comical. Get ahold of yourselves.
I do take issue with the way he said it: it was both disdainful and a wee bit threatening. He really is offended by the over-the-top sex kitten act. That said, the sentiment was exactly correct — Arian’s behavior is very risky. It may be rape, it may be physical violence, it may be HIV, but eventually she is going to get caught up in something unpleasant that could have otherwise been avoided.
If I decided I was going to go play pool for money at the most dangerous biker bar in my area, would you really be surprised if one day I left there with a busted-up face, or a stab wound, or worse? Now do I deserve to be attacked just for hanging out at a biker bar?? NO. Nor do I deserve to be mugged just for walking thru East St. Louis at night. BUT sh*t happens. Part of being an adult is learning to act in a responsible and safe fashion.
Besides, this show is called “Tough Love”, not “Holding Your Hand Happy Hour”. These are women, not little girls, and they should be able to handle the raw truth.
Steve SHOULD NOT apologize! Arian’s behavior is disgusting, and she will eventually get raped or WORSE. God lifts His veil of protection from any woman who dresses or acts immodestly. Her body is a temple, and that temple is God’s property, to be used ONLY to carry out His will. A man can only handle so much temptation before he backslides, and man who rapes a woman like Arian should be punished, but forgiven IF he confesses his sins. The liberals who are trying to subvert this Christian Nation will only lead this woman into sorry and woe.