Cocktail played hard on For the Love of Ray J, and now that she’s won her man, she’s loving him hard. Below, Ray’s reality find talks about the status of her relationship with Ray, her gold-digging reputation, her past on reality TV and why she understands where Ray’s mom was coming from when she said no girl in the Top 3 was right for him.
Congratulations.
Thank you.
Did winning Ray’s heart feel like a major victory?
A little bit. The competition wasn’t too tough. (Laughs)
At what point did you know that you had it in the bag?
When it was down to the Final 5.
Even though Ray had that insane connection with Danger?
That was a little threatening. When it got down to the Top 3, I questioned things. I felt like maybe I was wasting my time. But in the end, Danger was too much of a risk, I think. With Unique, it could have gone either way, because I thought he might want to pick her for a better image, since she’s so goody two shoes and wholesome and grandma-ish. I have my party side, but at the same time, I’m educated.
What has your communication with Ray been like since the show wrapped?
If we don’t talk everyday, we at least text each other. We make a point to see each other at least twice a month. That’s just what our schedules can fit. He’s on the road and doing stuff, and lately, I’ve been on the road as well, with appearances and whatnot.
What’s the status of your relationship? Is he your boyfriend?
Yeah. He’s my boyfriend, and the fact that I’m not seeing my boyfriend as much as I’d like to is different from what I’m used to. I would love to see him everyday and have him come home to me every night. But that’s not what it is, and I have to take it for what it is. I’m patiently learning his lifestyle. I expected this, but I’m sad now that I’m going through it. But it just makes the times I see him even more special.
Do you see it continuing like this, or do you foresee a time when you’re closer?
I think there will be times when we see each other more than we do now. The time of the year and the hype of the show has a lot to do with it. Once the business dies down, I think we’ll be able to see each other a little more.
Do you love him?
I do. I’m in love with him. I’m head over heels. When I tell my girlfriends that they’re like, “Are you kidding me?” No, this is the only man in my life right now that can say anything to me and make me fall into tears. It takes someone that I care about to go through with that emotion and show my vulnerability. I know I cried every three seconds on the show, but I care about him so much that he can say anything, the sweetest thing, the most horrible thing, and I burst into tears. I’m so overwhelmed.
What do you love the most about him?
It’s cheesy, but the first thing that pops into my head is his heart and how affectionate he is. It’s a side that not a lot of girls get to experience. He’s flirty and good with the ladies, but behind closed doors or just when it’s me and him and he’s not putting on his Hollywood act, trying to be whatever image that he has to portray because he’s an entertainer, I feel that it’s a genuine, affectionate connection. That’s important because it’s the way I was raised: I’m very affectionate in my culture. I had no idea that he’s so caring.
Even though all the dating shows aim for love, it’s rare that it gets to that point via reality TV.
Tell me about it! I didn’t think I was going to fall as hard as I did. I figured I’d like him, and it’s a competition, but it got to the point where I can’t even watch the show anymore. I see Danger talking about him, and I see them kissing, and I start throwing stuff at the TV.
Was it hard dealing with the attention Ray was paying the other girls while in the house, as well?
Yeah. I’m the most impatient person you’ll ever meet in your life, and that’s something I had to learn. I stayed focused. I stepped back and had one-on-ones with Ray and thought a lot about why I was there. It’s hard: 14 girls and one guy? Patience is what I learned from this show.
You had your game face on. You worked actively to get some of the girls out of the house.
For sure! It’s strategy.
What did you think when that was turned on you and your participation on the Bad Girls Club became a plot point? Did you think you’d be eliminated?
No. The girls were kind of talking about it early on. When I entered the house, they told me I looked familiar. I kind of just drew the attention away from myself. I knew then that I would have to address it to Ray at some point, but I didn’t early on because I didn’t want him to think I was there for the wrong reasons. I knew that if nobody said anything and I was the first to later on, maybe he’d get to know me a little bit and not eliminate me because I was on another reality show. I thought I could at least get to the point where he gave me the benefit of the doubt.
That was good strategy, too. Any thoughts on being portrayed as a gold-digger on Bad Girls Club and then ending up with a guy who makes considerable bank on this show?
The whole gold-digger thing was honestly something I said to better my chances of getting on a show that I thought had a different purpose. I thought that by saying I was something I wasn’t, it would give me an image. I thought it was going to make me more of an interesting character for people to watch. That’s the only reason I said things like that. If I was really like that, I would come out in things that I say or my personality. I’m a social worker. I’m not into that. If you look back on my roster of ex-boyfriends, none of them are wealthy. None are famous. Nothing. I’m a down-to-earth type of gal. I don’t date men for their status. If people judge me on saying I’m a gold-digger three years ago, so be it. But it was for entertainment purposes. I wanted to be on TV. And it wasn’t even like I was a main character. I was a replacement, and I was boring.
Do you feel like this show allowed you to cultivate your personality more?
Definitely. Some of my sides were portrayed a little more intensely than the way I am realistically. But I was just explaining to my friend that if I was getting to know someone, it would be awesome for them to watch the show. It’s maybe like 80 percent of who I really am. I’m very loyal, even if they want to portray me as a snitch.
What did you think of Ray’s mom saying that no one on the show was right for him?
I thought she had every right and every reason to say what she said and think what she did. It’s not a realistic situation for you to find a good girl on a television show. Most people that want to be on TV are there for the wrong reasons. I respected that because it’s something my mother would say. It’s something I would say if I had a son. I respect her love for her son. She’s a great mom.
So where do you go from here with Ray?
We’re going to try to make it work. We take things as they come. We’re regular people. I know people are like, “He’s this big R&B artist, this big star,” but he’s just like me and you. He’s a regular person with regular feelings. We’re gonna make the best of this and if it works out, it’s better for me and him. We found what we always wanted, and it’s love.
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Are you `((@_)@@+*~+@&!~ ing kidding me!?!?!?!? Why the `((@_)@@+*~+@&!~ does it matter if the girl is Hispanic? Only stupid ppl comment on what nationallity a person is! Come on!
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I think Ray should have gotten with Chardonay, Also I think she needs a show of her own to find love, because to me she was the realist one on the show. Unique was so phony you smelled it through the TV.
It’s not about the race because I DIDNOT like Unique she was so phony, *!~^^^#$$$~~_#(@ tail was too weak she couldn’t stand on her own too get the man she had to be sneaky, and be a snitch, snitches get stitches ma, Your mother was right NO! NO! NO! you let the real one go Chardoney so what she was a dancer she was real and looking for love, Bring her back on Ray J 2 to coach the ladies on how to be real.
hi +(`*%#~~!)%!~#$& tail im so glad you won i really hope you and ray j work out i no it wiill you to r the cutiest couple i ever seen lol
i am so happy for you Ray j and i knew that Joanna will be the right girl for you. To the best. I wish i could see you guy in personal.Because i love you guy i am a big fan of you two. Good luck to you two i wish you guys could get married. i think you two are the perfect march.
I think he did what his heart told him too!!! U cant hate da playa. Jus hate dat u dint win da game!!
Please if I have to see this predetermined generic interview one more time, who wrote this hoaky stuff? People are not this dumb….are they???
I personally feel like his mother.They are all no good for him.The so-called relationship will not last,because of their life styles and ray is not going to be faithful to no one right now.He is still young,and he thinks with the wrong head.I do not see him being tied down with no one woman right now.He loves sex,so it is lust not love.She is fooling herself if she really believes she is numeral uno.
ok let me give it to u like i see it first of all Chardonnay was a slut and everybody knows it she spread her legs every min pluse she was a stripper second Unique was a grandma she reminds me of alot of grandmas out there she no she was just as fake as she want to be but her true colors came out during the taping of the show ha ha ha also Ms.DANGER thats just what she is DANGER that gurl is the difination of crazy fureal she even looked CRAZY did yall see her red eyes and dont let me get on the princess #$+)%+`_!&@~(~$~ tail that gur has already been on a reality show Ray j diden’t do anything but boost her ego she got what she always wanted fame and u no she sitten at home right wishin she was on another reality show please just open your eyes rayj none of those gurls are right for u your mother was right none of them but whatever makes u happy and findin love will never be on a reality show in sum odd months whenever u meet that certain person u will no it and i jus no u still havent found what u are lookin for so everyboby out there yall no rayj mom was right so stop feeden him that bull %&@# and get it togeather people.
hi rayj and joanna i am a big fan.
THATS JUST ANOTHER EXAMPLE OF LATINAS SO IT BETTER SO STOP HATEING ON COCTAIL OF COURSE SHE IS FAKE HEY I WOULD LOVE RAT J TOO IF I HAD THE CHANCE HALLA MONEY TALKS BABY MONEY TALKS SPANISH LOL
I think Ray J made the right choice by picking $#_`~`!*)%&!#!%_ tail, all them other girls were ugly and fake! I wish the best for them!!! To my girl $#_`~`!*)%&!#!%_ tail Dust them haters off girl!!!
*^*`(~__~@“@^)# tail ovbiously one cause Ray J seen something in her that he didn’t see in the other girls wether it was love or just plain pleasure. People keep saying she probably one cause she slept with him but A didn’t Danger sleep with him too? They keep calling *^*`(~__~@“@^)# tail a slut like if she was the only one that slept with Ray J on the show. She did need a man to complete her but she has her reasons and it’s obviously not cause shes hispanic, seriously ppl common sense bra. I mean i bet if yall went on a show u wuld do anything to stay in the end right?? N just like yall talked sh*t on the girls theyd be talkin sh*t on u!…Since the start i liked *^*`(~__~@“@^)# tail and her style, but on da real i think shardonnay shouldve stayed in the end. I mean she had all da good qualities but a it was Ray Js pick there’s nun we can do about it and i bet if half of the girl that are hatin on this page went on that reality show with ray j and the other females you chicks wouldnt even make it past the first elimination.HAHAHA
omg me and my mom love your show and @(@`~$%&~#@_!%^$ tail we love love you im so happy he choosed you you and him make a cute couple.
Just looking at this gal and hearing her speak, i couldnt touch her even with a long poll, i think she is the worst of them’ll as no real girl should be such a DESPIRADO. He definately chosed with his pants down and not with his brains as the case should have been were he really looking for real luv.if i may add though, she and him aint going nowhwere, that´s for sure; so all that am headoverheels in love with him wont work as his eyes tells that he is not cut out for real love right now…or maybe not this FAKE TYPE ANYWAY!
Wow! I cant believe he picked her ewww! He should have picked Danger I heard some might be pregnant by him. And I read on sites that Ray J and CocTail broke up and now hes going out with Tila Tequila.
ok look back at how ray j had the room set up for both girls, he was just there with grams because he had too, he laid out clothes and a stripper pole in the shower for dumb %#%&@&+@(`@^)!# and the stupid &$#&*@~!_+#!$$%_( feel for it and gave up the booty…we all know that’s why he picked her and if she thinks that she’s his girlfriend then she needs to wake up from that crazy %#%&@&+@(`@^)!# dream that she’s having..come on boo, he’s a young %#%&@&+@(`@^)!# freak and he’s not going to settle down right now and plus u aint even on his level..(and i’m not talking about money either) and on the reunion show he wasn’t feeling her either..
I love +%)$+#*&+*!(`_`_ tail!! Glad she won!!!
SORRY HATERS!!!!!
hi “+^#*`(“$$*##$ tail
!&@#)&**_`((&%_! tail girl u had to win ray j heart
do you and Ray Jay still go out cause if yall too don’t I want i think he picked the right on cause yall those girls are carzy i would like to meet you to one day well next time give me a shout out just say i want to give a shout out to my biggest fan Shakira Wilcox!!!!!!!!!!
&*()#*@tail IS AS GOOD &*(#*#&) LIAR. SHE DOES NOT NEED SOME ONE LIKE RAY. I WATCH BAD GIRLS CLUB AND I SEEN THE SHOW WHEN SHE WAS ON THERE. SHE SAID SHE WAS A GOLD DIGGER ALL THROUGH OUT THE BAD GIRLS CLUB. THEN TOLD RAY PEOPLE YOU PAY OR YOUR BROTHER TO GO TO COLLEGE. HOW YOU DO THAT AND YOU WANT EVERYTHING 4 SELF. SHE SUCKED HIS &^%* EARLY ON TO A SURE HER A SPOT. RAY PICKED HER FOR HIS *@^# NOT LOVE. NOT GOING TO MAKE IT.
I THINK RAY PICKED THE RIGHT PERSON CAUSE ALL THOSE OTHER CHICKS WERE FAKE (*&$^($&~+`__#%+ TAIL I THNK IS THE ONE FOR RAY I WISH U BOTH THE BEST GOOD LUCK.I LOVE U GUYS
I LOVE ^_~*_*!!++`)((+# tail, She is amazing. I knew she was going to win she is the PERFECT girl for Ray, She is just amazing and soo pretty, and LATINA just like me!
(+(#_~)##^_+@#%^ tail i would never let go of u neverrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
I WANT TO KNOW DID RAY AND #*$*~@^&~%%#*~@# TAIL STAY TOGETHER AND DID HE REALY FIND LOVE ALSO IS RAY AND DANGER STILL CREAPING AROUND SINCE HE STATED ON THE REUION THAT HE COULD HANDLE A GIRL LIKE HER WWHY DIDNT HE JUST PICK HER
PERSONALLY I THINK THAT RAY WAS NEVER IN IT FOR LOVE HE JUST USED ALL THE GIRLS FOR SEX AND PLEASURE WHICH I DONT SEE WHY WHEN HE COULD IT FROM ANYWHERE I DONT MEAN ANY HARM RAY I STILL THINK YOU SEXY AS HELL THOUGH
I think %$^`^~~)*_((^#$! tail is a beautiful girl for you Ray she’s not like some of the girls I’ve seen on your show I think that there is a great vibe between you and her I also think that she has a nice personality to be real with you I didn’t like Unique at all I think her attitude was a little messed up.
let her “($+)+^&#)*#^^ go you should have choose danger
I think )$@^@#`_~&&^#^$# tail is sooo pretty! i saw her in person at Copper Rhinos shes beautiful! Ray J is a smart man! He made the right choice by not choosing fat Old big head unique! Quit hatin on )$@^@#`_~&&^#^$# tail
for one i seen the look on ray’s face coctail _*^^#(~~%^%&&$%&$ he didnt want your %_%`%!(`^(*!_^+ u was just the last resort danger was crazy unique was too homie and you was the last pick so thats why he choose u. but i seen it in his eyes that he really didnt want your %_%`%!(`^(*!_^+ Tequila got your man now dumb _*^^#(~~%^%&&$%&$ i hope u didnt think it was going to be forever ho!
if there so much n love why is he shooting season 2 ??? shes into him but he dont want her !
I respect all these opinions posted… but I think all these people are just hatin’. First off, where do the stereotype that all Spaninsh people are always for LOVE, WTF? Ray J is a huge star… so what? There are other stars that are way hotter than him and (#%*$#!@~~`(~%*_ tail is a responsible good-looking Latina lady so leave her ~^`!#!**++~_%(% alone. Ray J prolly doesn’t know what the heck he wants so I am not sure why the heck he has an effin show.
I mean, he is a great singer/composer/song writer but shizzzz, and yes, I wanted (#%*$#!@~~`(~%*_ tail to win, and that’s cuz, she’s awesome and I think she is TOO GOOD for Ray J.
I respect all these opinions posted… but I think all these people are just hatin’. First off, where do the stereotype that all Spaninsh people are always for LOVE, WTF? Ray J is a huge star… so what? There are other stars that are way hotter than him and #+!`*#%~@%*^!@!( tail is a responsible good-looking Latina lady so leave her `&&*(`#~(~&#(+% alone. Ray J prolly doesn’t know what the heck he wants so I am not sure why the heck he has an effin show.
I mean, he is a great singer/composer/song writer but shizzzz, and yes, I wanted #+!`*#%~@%*^!@!( tail to win, and that’s cuz, she’s awesome and I think she is TOO GOOD for Ray J.
im happy she won i was hoping she was going to win she reminds me so much of me cuz how she do anything to make it work. its better to have her than uniqe cuz unique is so controlling and demanding and mean and she seems like a type of girl you would get into alot of arguments with. with +@&+$`^@*_#*%#&` tail she is a sweet caring girl and i think thats what ray j should have .
HeyFolks, I believe that Ray J picked who he wanted to pick. Yes WE all have our opinion but in the end, its Ray J choice. I really liked Chardonnay AND I thought she would be his girl but shes not. She was real, matter of fact, she was the realist one to me. now its season 2. I hope that she (Chardonnay) appears on it too. As for !`+_^@&)^!!$*&)@ tail, for some reason HE CHOSE U. To the persons that are using racial slurs u should be ashamed of speaking such things. I am A BLACK WOMAN! I have hispanic friends. GROW UP and let that die please!
i think ray j is clearly a dumb #)^&!&)%~$`*`!%` hes an entertainer and thats the only reason he wanted to make a show n thats why theirs going to be a part 2, 3, & 4 hes just wants quick n easy money n what better way to do so by being surrounded by a bunch of beautiful women &)&_!)%#`)$&%@*` you ray j ~%!&$@#_%`$__&& hole
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i don think ray j made the right decision I wish cashmere or chardonay would have stayed cuz to me `+(`%**)((+~$@^! tail was fake and I don think she was really there for him….. but atleast there trying to make it work but he could do better….
AWW THAT IS SO GOOD SOMEONE FINALLY FOUND LOVE ON A REALITY SHOW, AND SHE FROM SACRAMENTO!!! CALI STAND UP!!
I THINK THAT RAY J SHOULD FOLLOW HIS HEART AND FUTURE.HE IS STILL YOUNG AT HEART BUT I’M GLAD HE IS MAKING ANOTHER SHOW BUT EITHER WAY HE WILL SOMEDAY FIND HIS TRUE LOVE ..
How can she say its going to work when hes about to be on another show trying to find love now you tell me it not going to happen
OMG! There is a second season of For the Love of Ray J! WHHAT? ANNND I Want To Work For Diddy!! VH1 has the best shows!!! I want to work for diddy premiers THIS monday, Nov 2nd! CANNNT WAIT!
i think Danger is pritty…but like really…did he have 2 get her pregnant after he dumped +*&`@+_)^&~)$(#) tail…and why did he leave her 2? is he a player or something??
is it true that he got Danger pregnant??? y did he leave her 2??
VH1 is getting out of hand with all these reality shows. Real chance of love, my antonio, and now For the love of Ray J, these people come on TV, for money and publicity, not to find love. All the women who won, in their interviews, all of them confirmed it that nothing happened after the show. I mean I know nobody finds love on TV, but why will they keep acting like it’s real.
All I know is I’m not wasting my time anymore watching all of these stupid reality shows, not even for the entertainment, when there are better things to do.
why is she saying that because she said on her myspace page she not fellin him so why is she talkin??? And ray needs to fallow his heart and what he wants is going to be right in front of him!!!!
I KNOW COCTAIL IM JUST A GUY BUT YOU ARE VERY SEXY BEAutiful and ray shouldnt ever let you go anywhere , YOU ARE AQ BEAUTIFUL PERSON , I WISH I COULD JUST BE A FRIEND OF YOURS . YOU ARE VERY SPECIAL
Brandy had turned into a very beautiful business woman. Ray J on the other hand, while successful is `!((_*(~%%**`!*& ie, thick headed, immature and a momma’s boy. He does not take accountability for anything let alone his actions but why would he when his mother always pushes the blame off on someone else. I’m a mother of 4 boys and I know it is easy to be protective of your boys but she is not helping him when she does not allow him to be accountable. Also if she loves Brandy, I can’t tell. I am deeply disturbed by how she treats and does not treat her daughter Brandy. She acts like the sun rises and sets on Ray J but what about her girl. Brandy was there first. Also if there was no Brandy spot light then there would not have been any Ray J spot light. Even if she doesn’t love Brandy she should not let America see it. She needs to grow up and get a grip before both of her children fire her and go their own way. Terrible mother.
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