This season of Charm School has packed in more drama in three episodes than most series do over their entire run. And the drama keeps on rolling! Below, Farrah talks about what pushed her to make the decision to “drop out,” reflects on locking Brittaney Starr in the bathroom and lets us know where she is with her stripping. Most revealing, though, are her comments regarding her calling other girls on the show “ghetto.” The race dialogue has yet to cease, and from where we’re sitting, it’s only getting more interesting.
I didn’t really understand why you were getting so upset at the elimination that led to your dropping out.
I was so pissed, I was actually pacing back and forth. Whenever they were up there, the girls from Real Chance of Love were standing there acting like they were total angels, and that’s fine. When I do stuff that’s wrong, like locking Brittaney Starr in the bathroom, I try to act like an angel, too. But they were making little comments. I don’t remember what they were, but it was just pissing me off. They were that mad that one of the Real Chance of Love girls was up there. Two of the Rock of Love girls were up there. Hello? Two Rock of Love girls already got sent home. It was hard to stand there and listen to all their comments, and it was frustrating that Ricki couldn’t hear them.
So it was just comments that bothered you enough to want to leave?
I knew that as soon as one of the Real Chance of Love girls was sent home, the rest were going to explode, because that’s what they do. It was never-ending. They were yelling the whole time, and when I say “they,” I mean Bay Bay Bay, So Hood, Ki Ki, Risky, K.O and Brittaney Starr. All that yelling was hard to deal with. I had to drink a lot to tolerate it.
So, you walk off and then Ashley follows you and then Marcia follows her…
It was so funny, because we didn’t have that planned. We were just in sync.
Did Ricki momentarily convince you to stay after that?
I felt sorry for Ricki at that point. I know she didn’t want us to leave, but I was thinking at that point that she didn’t know what she was getting herself into. Neither did we, and I’m sure the Real Chance of Love girls felt the same way, because they didn’t want to be around us, either. Ricki didn’t know what to do, and I felt sorry for her because she’s a really sweet person.
But regardless, you decided to leave anyway after elimination.
After Ricki eliminated Ki Ki, a bomb exploded. There was screaming and yelling, but this time they weren’t just communicating as usual — they were pissed off. They thought we should have gone home for locking Brittaney Starr in the bathroom, but the thing is that we didn’t harm her. She’s mentally unstable, anyway. We could have kicked her ass, but kicking her ass would have been like beating up a mental patient or someone with a handicap. She’s just not right. Of course, they realize now that she’s crazy. So I was outside in the yard, and Brittaney Starr comes out with a massive plate, like a flying saucer. And she was gonna hit me with it, so we shoved each other, and I was gonna beat her ass, but like I said, I didn’t want to do that. Production came out and grabbed me, and that’s when I went up the steps like, “I’m leaving.” If you go back to the supertrailer, you can see us pushing each other. That’s when I walked out of the house and I walked into the driveway in front of the house and I said, “I’m leaving.” A producer got me in the Charm School bus and asked me to leave, and while I’m sitting in there, I see So Hood get in the van and leave and it was like, “What is going on now?” By this time, I had begged so many times to leave that they let me. I actually did want to come back the next day, but they thought it wasn’t the best environment for me and I agreed.
So, if you could sum up your departing state of mind in a word, what would it be? Irritation?
I don’t know if I could sum it up in a word…
Was it fear?
No, I was definitely irritated. A lot of things played into it, too. I was very emotional at the time, before I even came on the show, and I had a bottle of tequila with Marcia. To hear the screaming all day long it kind of puts you in a state like in The Shining, when you’re locked into a place for so long and then you start freaking out. I felt like that was going to happen to me if I didn’t leave.
But having been on a reality show, you didn’t expect screaming?
On Rock of Love, we were funny and fun. Every now and then, we had altercations, but we never got up in somebody’s face and verbally abused them like they did Bubbles all the time. They were always doing something to Bubbles. She’d be like, “I want to be friends with you,” and they’d all start screaming. Bubbles is the sweetest person on the planet. People think she’s dumb. I do think she’s smart. It’s just her voice, and she says dumb things sometimes. I love her to death.
You definitely did seem more willing than most to bridge the gap between the shows. You reached out to So Hood after Marcia called her “So Ho.”
Yeah, I tried to talk to her and she was like, “Whatever.” I talked to Ki Ki on the bus on the way there. She was nice and I was nice to her. Bay Bay Bay and I had a really good conversation one time and she was really sweet. The Real Chance girls really didn’t do anything to me besides saying, “Kiss my black ass,” and setting Brittaney Starr up to say stuff to me. But they weren’t looking to be friends, I don’t think. I really regret leaving because I know once a few people left, the group would be smaller and everyone would blend together.
At what point did you regret that?
The next day when I woke up in my hotel room. I was really sad and I had anxiety all day. I should have stuck it out. Sometimes you don’t realize you’re making the wrong decision until it’s too late.
It seemed like you could have won it. You were practically set up to turn your life around and take it all.
I know I could have won it. And I know everybody had faith that I was going to win it. Ricki and Lala both thought I could go to the end and change. I wanted to change, too. And I loved the theme: giving back.
Where are you with stripping?
I’m not doing it as much as I used to. If I need money and I’m not hosting events, I may go in. Most of the time if I go into work here in Myrtle Beach, I basically don’t even dance the whole time because so many people recognize me and ask me for pictures and buy me drinks, so it’s basically just like I’m going out in small, skimpy clothes. I never go on stage. People just give me money for sitting with them.
Let’s talk about your classification of some of the girls as “ghetto,” since some people read that as racist.
First of all, I want to apologize to anyone who took offense to that word. Obviously, their definition and my definition are different. My definition is loud, obnoxious and inconsiderate. It has nothing to do with color. Ghetto is not a color. I know white people that are ghetto, I know black people that are ghetto. It’s not a race thing for me. The people I referred to as “ghetto bitches” on the show weren’t just the black girls. It was Brittaney Starr and K.O, also. Plus, I’ve been ghetto more than a few times. I’m that way when I’m wasted a whole lot.
What did you think of Bay Bay Bay calling Ashley and strippers ghetto?
I think that was uncalled for. She was so upset over the use of that word and then she turned around and used it. The whole time, we were called “white stripper whores.” We were also referred to as dykes, by Ki Ki, I believe. I don’t agree with that. I support the gay and lesbian community, and that’s a slur toward them. I’m not a lesbian, but I do turn lesbian one drink at a time (laughs). They called us that because we were taking showers together. Well, let me explain that. No. 1) It’s hot. No. 2) What’s wrong with it? Everybody likes it. Ashley’s hot and seeing her naked’s hotter. The real point, though, is that we took showers together to share the water. That’s another way to give back to your community: conserving water. The whole theme to Charm School was giving back to the community. Even though I was only there for three days, me and Ashley gave back to the community three times. And I will continue to give back to the community when I see Ashley again. Look, me and Ashley get called a lot of names because of our provocative dressing, but we don’t get offended because we choose to dress that way. People shouldn’t get offended when they’re called “ghetto” because they’re choosing to act that way.
I think some of the confusion arose because a lot of people, especially white people, swap in the word “ghetto” when what they really want to say is “black.”
I understand that, I understand why people think it’s a racial thing. But that’s definitely not how I intended it. And then it’s like, why say, “Kiss my black ass?” Why call us “white girls?” Why call Ashley and me whores and sluts just based on how we’re dressed? It works both ways.
Did you learn anything from your time on the show?
I learned that picking up trash in the river is very disgusting. Oh, I do want to add that Stryker can kiss my butt. He said I wear size 10.5 shoes, and I wear a 7.5, thank you very much. That made me look so stupid. It’s like, great, everyone thinks I’m an Amazon or a barbarian. I’m 5’6″, and I weigh 130 lbs. I’ve lost 20 lbs., since Charm School.
It sucks that the Blondourage is broken up again.
It sucks, but people are not going to forget me. I made a big impact by locking Brittaney Starr in the bathroom. I think that’s one of the funniest moments ever on reality TV. Some people got so bent out of shape about it, and it’s like chill out. We just intended to lock her in there for a few minutes until she started saying, “F*** you, whores,” calling us all kinds of names. I told her, “That’s not the way to get out of the bathroom,” and she kept it up. She was taunting us, too, but the show made it look like we were the only ones doing the taunting. If anyone knew her, they’d lock her in there, too. The people who were offended don’t really know Brittaney Starr. People like to compare the way we treated Brittaney to the way the Real Chance girls treated Bubbles. No. It’s not the same thing. Bubbles is sweet and nice and didn’t say anything mean to them and she’s not crazy. Brittaney Starr is certifiable. And everybody knows it except for the people who don’t know her.
What about when you said that you weren’t quitting Charm School, you were dropping out? What’s the distinction?
That makes me laugh my brains out. I was wasted and it means the same thing. I was just trying to say something clever, I guess. I don’t know.