When we blogged about last week’s TMZ story regarding For the Love of Ray J contestant Danger’s recent stay at a psychiatric hospital, we mentioned that we reached out to her for a statement but hadn’t heard back. Well, now we have. Earlier this week, we spoke to Danger and she helped shade in more details about her stay in the hospital, the effects of her postpartum depression, her current mental state, her daughter, whether she’s currently pregnant (as suggested by her Twitter), and so much more. As her baby sounded gently in the background, we talked to a woman who’s still very guarded and still very damaged, but whose hope is palpable. Now more than ever, we hope that Danger finally finds peace.
I think everyone knows that you’ve been having a rough time lately.
It’s been very rough. People don’t know how serious of an illness postpartum depression is. I’ve had a very rough life. People don’t understand that when you come from a tough past, and you have a child and you have postpartum depression, a lot hits you at once. You always want a better life for your child than what you had.
When did you notice that you were starting to suffer from postpartum depression?
I went back home. My brother got into a near-fatal car accident. He went through a windshield. I went back to the Bay Area to visit him, and the postpartum depression set in when I reconnected with my family, and they met my daughter for the first time. A lot of past memories and experiences came back to me and I became scared for my daughter. I felt like we were unsafe.
The reports suggest that you then snapped, shaved your head and were admitted to a mental institution. Is that how it happened?
People think there was a big thing where I was violent and angry, but that didn’t happen. I was very depressed. I was crying and very sad. I have no support. I have no family support. I have no financial support. I’ve never felt loved.
What about your baby’s dad?
I love him, but I have to get better. I can’t be with him, if I’m not OK.
But is he supporting his daughter?
Of course. He’s a very good father, and he’s a very supportive man. He wants me to get better.
Would you say that you had a breakdown?
I don’t like the word “breakdown,” because it suggests weakness. I’m not a weak person, I’m very strong. I just went through something, and now I’m healing. I didn’t know how much pain I was in, because I keep a lot of things inside. I’m not keeping things inside anymore. I cut my hair so I could start a new life. I’m reborn as a different person, and I’m focusing on being the best mom I can be. When you get famous, people try to tear you apart, and I’m very famous right now. I’m just focusing on being around positive people and being a good mother. All the publicity and the Internet and all that will kill you if you let it. My fans, and everybody, shouldn’t believe the things on the Internet that they say about me, unless I’m saying it. There’s that much jealousy. People want me to fail, and I’m not going to fail. I’ve never failed. I’m a person who wins. Everything I want to do, I do. I achieve things. Just because I had a moment where I was dealing with some problems through postpartum depression, it does not mean that I won’t continue to succeed in my life, no matter what I do.
Maybe around Thanksgiving, your Twitter seemed erratic. Was this when the depression was setting in?
Yes. That was when depression was hitting me the worst. I was in the hospital very shortly after that. Then, whoever has control of my Twitter was writing really negative comments when I wasn’t able to be online. A lot of that wasn’t me.
Was there any reason you didn’t go back and delete that stuff?
I’m the type of person that will let people believe what they want to believe. If they want to believe negativity about my life, they can. If that’s what rules them and makes them happy, I don’t care. That doesn’t have any effect on my happiness. I know I’m a great mother, I know my daughter’s father is a great man. I know once I get better, I can go with my daughter’s father and we can be a family and be happy. And at the end of the day, that’s all that matters.
Shortly after those tweets, you say you checked into the hospital. Did you spend a week there?
Yes.
How was that?
It started off extremely bad. I don’t like to be imprisoned. I was born free, I’m going to die free. Being in that kind of setting was very difficult for me, but it helped me to control my anger. I was working out, they shaved my head all the way off for me. I knew the only way I was going to get out was if I controlled my anger. I escaped twice and was on the run. They had to find me. When I finally came back, I just knew that if I ever wanted to see my daughter again, I had to control my anger. For her, I decided to change. I got better, and I got released.
What work did you do to become better?
I just have to talk to God. I wrote letters to my daughter, and I couldn’t talk to any of my family. My child’s father called with his father, and told me that he loved me and wanted to get better. That helped me a lot. Positive people in my life that aren’t related to me were showing me that I was loved. I was connected to the other people in the mental institution and they got better because I was getting better. I was able to help them get better and to see what was going on in their lives for the reason they were there. It was a good facility. A very, very good facility.
Obviously, a week’s time is a brief period. You say you got better, but that’s an ongoing process, right?
It is. So many people have oppressed me and hurt me that I felt like this could happen at any time. I can’t be that person anymore. I have a daughter. I want to be a mom. I want to have more children and be married and happy. As soon as I’m able to be all the way better, negative thoughts won’t cross my mind.
Are you pregnant now?
No, that’s a lie. I want to have all my children by the same man. I’m not going to have sex with everybody in the industry and sit on a lily pad, eating bonbons and collecting checks from different men. That’s not all I’m good for. I have a brain. I use it.
Your Twitter still says that you’re pregnant, though.
I have no control over that Twitter. Someone hacked into everything of mine: my Facebook, my email, my computer, my MySpace. Everything’s been hacked. I have a huge virus on my computer. I can’t even look into my documents. Somebody just got into my life, and decided they wanted to take control of it.
Do you know who it is?
What they don’t realize is yes I do. I know exactly who it is.
Are you taking steps to reclaim your identity?
That’s what this interview is.
Not everyone’s going to see this interview. Your latest tweet is, “I like nuts in my mouth.”
Nobody can take something away from me that’s mine. Danger is a completely different person than Monica. Monica needed Danger to come and protect her, because she was getting violated and abused. That’s why she was created: so I could be alive. I would have died a long time ago otherwise. But now I have to clean up my image because I have a daughter to raise! She’s gonna grow up, and she knows her mom is not Danger. Her father is not going to marry Danger. That’s a fictitious character I created for America to love me, to identify with me. I’m an actor.
Do you feel like you reached your goal? Do you feel like America loves you?
Yeah, I do. I feel like all around the country, people can not feel alone, and know that women go through hell. I feel like people indentify with who I am and what I represent, because they’re going through so much hell and pain and sadness and sickness, they know that somebody’s alive that’s so strong that she’s gone through all that and is still happy and is still having children and will be married and will be in love and live a peaceful life. And that gives them hope that they can also live a peaceful life, no matter what their circumstance is.
I hear your daughter in the background. You have custody of her?
Yes.
Was there any question that you might not retain that custody when you got out of the hospital?
There have been a lot of questions about whether or not I am a fit mother, especially with the Internet going on as it is. If I wasn’t, I would still be locked up in the institution on drugs. I’m not on drugs. I was going through postpartum depression, and I’m continuing to heal with counseling and therapy. I’m fine. I can raise my child. When you get out of an institution, if you don’t stay focused on getting better, you’ll go back, or you’ll die.
Has the postpartum depression gotten better?
It’s gotten a whole lot better since I know how to deal with it. Some women with postpartum depression take it out on their child, but I never was mad at my child. I’m just so mad at my circumstance.
Do you see your life getting better?
This is the fun part. This is the part I’ve been waiting my whole life for: to be a mother and happy.
It just seems like your stay in a mental institution might be a low point.
It was a good low point. It showed me who really loved me in my life. It made me realize that family is who loves you, not who’s related to you.
Are you happy?
Yes, but I’m gonna be a lot happier soon. When I’m married, I’ll be happy all the way.
Well, you’re always fascinating, Monica.
(Laughs) Thanks.
I know I’m not the only one who thinks that.
I think now that people can understand that Danger is a character that I created and that I’m a really, really f***ing good actor, I think they’ll get it. I think that’s great that they’ll be able to understand me and I can be myself again.
Are you going to stop calling yourself Danger?
No. I’ll always be Danger. She’s part of me. She’s my creation. Since I was 19, I’ve been that person. But I have control. I can control who I am. I’ve playing Danger for a long time. And I’m tired of playing Danger.
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65 responses to to The Celebreality Interview – Danger
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Dear Monica, (aka) Danger
First of all i would like to say congrats on the birth of your daughter. I was just reading your interview and i am so happy that you are doing better. I Only have this to say on the whole situation.
Nobody knows you as a person but GOD. Don’t worry about what nobody has to say about you, you keep getting better so that you can be the kind of mother that god wants you to be. He gave you a sacred responsibility to raise your daughter because he knew that you can handle the job. If you let America, or the world have it their way you are everything but the child of god so why worry about what they have to say. JUST LET GOD TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE AND GOD WILL SET EVERYTHING ELSE RIGHT.
You cannot pour new wine into old wineskins
Mathew 9:17
Be Blessed,
Yolanda
Monica,
Congrats on your baby, I’m happy you are doing well
I want you to read the following scriptures in the Bible Jeremiah 29:11 Psalms 5:12, Psalms 91:11
Luke 10:19, Proverbs 3:5-6 These scriptures will help you in all areas keep them in your heart & mind.
I will keep you & Your New family in my prayers.
God Bless You Monica
From Pachat
Hello Monica,
I’m Glad You are better congrats on your baby girl.
I want you to read the following scriptures in the Bible and keep them in your heart & mind.
Psalms 5:12 Palms 91:11 Jeremiah 29:11 Luke 10:19 Proverbs 3:5-6. They will help you in all areas of life
I will keep you & your new family in my prayers.
God bless you Monica
from pachat
Danger i really understand where u are coming from.I am a mother of 4 beautiful kids and i suffer from bipolar depression and i suffer from it because i been through the same thing that u have been through i always have suicide thoughts all my life i had no friends to run to and talk to about what was been done to me or any family so i keep everything in the inside so wen i meet my boyfriend of 3yrs i didnt open up to him until 5months ago so i really do know how you feel but we have to stay strong for our babies that we gave birth to so keep your head up and let people keep talking that mean that you are on their mind 365 a year!!!!!
Hey Monica;(aka)Danager i really understand where u are coming from.I am a mother of 4 beautiful kids and i suffer from bipolar depression and i suffer from it because i been through the same thing that u have been through i always have suicide thoughts all my life i had no friends to run to and talk to about what was been done to me or any family so i keep everything in the inside so wen i meet my boyfriend of 3yrs i didnt open up to him until 5months ago so i really do know how you feel but we have to stay strong for our babies that we gave birth to so keep your head up and let people keep talking that mean that you are on their mind 365 a year!!!!!Almost forgot take care of that beautiful baby!
Monica i completely understand where you are comming from when talk about your struggels. But one thing that disturbs me in this interview is that u seem to beileve the key to your happiness is through love and having someone love you back. I will admit at times i also feel the same and allow the person i am in love with become the center of my universe. But what you have to remember is that you have to love your self and realize that you came into this world alone and the fact that you may live in alone…only when you achive happiness with yourself is when you can be happy with someone else.
she is a very beautiful woman. I think her and Ray J made a cute couple. He is not doing that show to look for love. He is not ready to settle down. He just needs some publicity. SOrry but it’s the truth.
Hey Ms. Monica Danger, I completely understand what you are going through I just had a baby 4 months ago, so between a rough childhood and isses with my childs father (some of these dudes go crazy when your pregnant & they feel your not going anywhere)I was under alot of stress and postpartum hit me like a ton of bricks! Butyou have to stay focus so you don’t lose control of your life. So I hope that you stay focused and I’m sure you and your child will have a wonderful future ahead of you. and P.S your killin the bald head look, and not every1 can do that : ) do your thing baby girl!
Hey Ms Monica Danger, I had my son 4 months ago and I went thru the same type of feelings. and when you add a turbulent childhood and the stress that some men put you thru when your pregnant and they think they have you trapped.postpartum hit like a ton of bricks, but you have tostay focus so you dont lose control of your life. You have a baby that needs YOU and I had to remember that in order to stay as mentaly heathy as I cold possibly be. So just know so many woman feel you and what you went thru. keep your head up and p.s you are killin the bald head look! Do your thing.you and chardennay were the best lookin and the realest ones outta both seasons : ) keep your head up
Danger u are not telling the truth on certain things cause i keep up with u an alot of things u say thats not true u have put out there ur self u the one that said u was pregnant by rayj first u the one told that u was pregnant again i think that u still need alot of help and that u crave attention.
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