It’s been over a week since we last heard from Danger. Quick, someone get her on the horn! Actually don’t, because we did. In the interview below, For the Love of Ray J‘s most infamous character, Monica “Danger” Leon, talks about TMZ’s recent report that she lost custody of her daughter, her failed relationship with Gabriel Cannon, the joy she takes in being a public figure and accusing Ray J of being gay, then retracting it, then retracting the retraction.
So what’s been going on?
Umm…a lot. Haha, you can probably see from the press that lot’s been going on. It’s been kind of crazy.
I guess the most publicized thing is that you’ve lost custody of your daughter.
That’s not true.
That’s not true?
No.
So that’s just patently untrue? TMZ reported…
I can’t really talk about that certain situation in great detail, but basically I cannot control what’s put out there in the media and the press. All I can do is remain consistent with what I put out. And my daughter is fine. I did not lose custody of her, but me and her father are going through a custody battle. I’m fighting for joint custody, he’s fighting for full custody. So there’s a court proceeding going on right now for custody, we are going through a custody court. But I did not lose custody.
So you’ve seen her? You have her?
No, I don’t have her. But she’s with family. I’m working, I’m Hollywood. She’s close by with family, and I can see her whenever I want. There’s no bad blood going on as far as me and my child’s father’s immediate family. They love me as the mother of their new granddaughter.
So you’re OK with the situation?
Well, it’s kind of ugly. I didn’t want to have to take it to court. I didn’t want to have to go through that, but I’m just thankful that my daughter is a baby, and she’s probably not going to remember this. We’re probably going to have joint custody, like most parents do. I tried to reconcile with Gabriel, but it didn’t work out.
When we last talked, it seemed like you were determined to make a future with him.
I was. I really was. I wanted to reconcile, but it’s not something that he wanted to do. I accepted that, and we basically both moved on with our lives and he decided to take it upon himself to take me to court for custody. I’m seeing somebody else now, I’m seeing an ex-boyfriend of mine. We’ve known each other for about four years, and he’s an actor as well. We started dating each other recently. He’s been really good being there for me. It’s a hard time, because nobody really wants to go through the court systems. It’s just all very unnecessary.
One interview suggested that your new man is Tyrin Turner. Is that true?
Yes.
You also recently went back and forth, talking about Ray J’s sexuality.
Basically, what it comes down to is I’m dealing with two very jealous exes who are lashing out, and they are trying to effect my money and my relationship with my newborn daughter, and it’s really sad. But I’m doing everything that I need to do, and I’m going to maintain everything that I need to maintain: my career, my life, my health, my motherhood. It’s just paperwork and bad press, but it’s nothing that I haven’t dealt with before.
What was up with the string of interviews that went, “He’s gay,” “No he’s not,” “Yes he is”?
When I did the retraction, Ray J told me that he was going to stop calling me crazy in the press, and that we could maintain our friendship and be cool, and he would stop trying to do all of the negative things. And we were going to have a meeting reconciling this whole “Danger Smashed a Homie” T-shirt situation. But when I took it back for him and he did another interview saying that I’m just crazy, and added “suicidal” in there, and that he’s going to pray for me. Like he’s on this pedestal and he’s looking down on me and seeing me. And that’s when I came back and did the retraction of the retraction.
Are you suicidal?
I’m not suicidal. I love myself. I think that should be perfectly clear to everybody how much I love myself.
Is it fun for you to play this all out in the media?
It’s not fun. There’s nothing fun about it. It’s not fun at all.
In the first interview, you sounded like you were having fun.
Yeah, OK, maybe that was a little fun.
I mean, you do enjoy talking to the press, right?
Well, I do enjoy being a public figure. I do enjoy saying things and having people listening. That does make me feel good. You’re right about that.
And it seems like out of everybody else on the show, you’ve found a way to keep yourself out there.
I guess so, huh? It doesn’t look like I’m going anywhere anytime soon.
Is there a conscious effort on your part to keep people talking about Danger?
No, that doesn’t ever really cross my mind. Just living my life and doing normal everyday things has people talking. Because I am already in the public eye, I can go to the grocery store and have a million people taking my picture and want pictures with me and putting camera phones on me and putting it on YouTube. It’s just where I am now in my life. I could do normal stuff, I go to the club with my friends or do very normal things, and it’s just one of those things. It’s just who I am now, I have to accept it.
So where are you now emotionally? It seems like listening to your interviews, there are many moods of Danger that we see publicly. When I talked to you, you seemed sad, and then in the interview after, you seem a lot more upbeat.
I was a lot sadder after our interview, because I really was going through so much. And I did want to reconcile with my ex. And that was making me sad. I was trying to go through couples counseling with him, and it wasn’t working. After I accepted the fact that we are just going to be parents and try to be friends, and then when I started dating Tyrin again. I really haven’t been loved in a long time for who I am. Being with Tyrin really made me feel good. I felt loved again, I felt appreciated. I’m not dealing with a bisexual power man. I’m not dealing with a very young guy who’s still finding himself. He’s a grown man, and he loves me, and I love him, and I feel good. And that’s why I’m really happy right now; because I feel loved again.
Do you think that the Mariah Carey comments were blown out of proportion?
I don’t even know [Mariah Carey and Nick Cannon], but I feel like they employ my ex because he’s on tour with Mariah. They’re also funding his investigation and court proceedings to get full custody. And I feel like, she’s my daughter. She’s not their daughter. They need to respect me as her mother. At least respect me as her mother and not give him money to do this ugly blown-out court trial and investigation. It looks negative upon me, and it has some impact on me sitting down with executives for film and television, and them thinking that, “I don’t know, she might really be crazy”. That’s not going to help my career, and it’s really unfair, because she has millions of dollars. Why does she think she can control people that she doesn’t even know?
Don’t you think the fact that you were in a mental institution could to a lot more to defame your character?
Well, I went voluntarily to deal with postpartum depression. It was a hospital. People go through things in their lives. Postpartum depression is a real illness, so I feel like any executive would see that and meet me or hear my latest interview and think, “OK, she went through something after she had a baby. And now she’s fine and working on this project or that project. We can insure her. We can work with her.”
Are you hopeful for the future?
Oh yeah. I’m working on so many projects right now. It’s really a blessing. I’m glad that Gabriel’s immediate family — his mother, his aunts — I’m glad that they really love and respect me as their granddaughter’s mother and are helping me with her because I don’t have that with my family. I’m glad that he has a strong family that loves me and accepts me. I’m very thankful for all that they’ve done for me, and allowing me this time to film and work on the projects that I need to work on to ensure a future for my daughter.
Is there anything else you wanted to go over, Monica?
I just really want to thank all of my fans and supporters for still following me with my career and the things that I do. I appreciate that, and I want everybody to understand that I’m a regular person, and I’m always going to stay humble and I’m always going to be an ordinary person. I’m not going to change. I’m not going to let the industry change me. When I feel like the industry is changing me, that’s when I’m going to quit. And then I’ll probably go back to college and continue getting my medical degree.
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| 213 | Bonus Clips | Videos: Ray J's Season 2 Review! | 1/25/10 |
| 211 | Bonus Clips | Videos: Episode 11 Bonus Clips | 1/18/10 |
| 211 | Show Clips | Videos: Homie Invasion Show Clips | 1/18/10 |
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| 209 | Bonus Clips | Videos: Episode 9 Bonus Clips | 1/04/10 |
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| 207 | Show Clips | Videos: The Amazing Rays Show Clips | 12/14/09 |
| 206 | Bonus Clips | Videos: Episode 6 Bonus Clips | 12/07/09 |
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10 responses to to Catching Up With Danger
Medical degree? My goodness, if there’s one imbalanced person I wouldn’t want in charge of my medical care, it’s her.
From the sound of things, she considers herself to be one of the Hollywood elite (at least as far as reality stars go) and has convinced herself that she has a career. I don’t see what the industry could change in her other than giving her stability– why would that be a reason to change fields?
I want to laugh at her, but she is so ill it is just not right to laugh
Danger isn’t in a good place. VH1, please stop exploiting this sick young woman’s life.
I feel a little bad for Danger with all the crap that she has to go through.I hope that the Cannons treat her well because she is human and has no family.I wish Danger well………I think she is just looking for love.I also want to know if Ray J is gay and who is boyfriend.
I honestly wish one had to take a test before giving birth. It seems like so many women have children for the all wrong reasons. How many people grow up messed up…ie. Ms. Danger because of their parents’ selfishness & then repeat the experience to create yet another generation of misfits.
im glad u doin good & keep up
Give Monica a break, people. You don’t know what she may have been through in her life. Lots of women go through serious post-partum depression. It is something none of us have control over. Too much hate in this world. Like she said she is just unique and intelligent. I don’t know her personally, but I think you all who hate her should really walk a mile in her shoes first. And if you’re reading this Monica, feel free to respond. Are you on Facebook or Myspace? Best of luck with your ex and your daughter. I sincerely hope it is worked out peacefully. I can tell it’s what you want and need.
She’s such a beautiful woman. But it is obvious that she has some mental health issues. I wish her all of the best.
I can’t help but believe the Ray J rumors.
And to Candy, she has said that Ray J was dating his good “friend”, Young Buck (not from G-Unit) the guy that helped create the smashed the homies song. He was also a guest on this season.
danger i am so proud of you your a pretty girl congradulations on the new baby wish you the best of luck with the court isssue and as long as you know your a good mother damn what anybody thinks nor say about you live life to the fullest.
dangere for get all of theam i still like u me my sis sit down and watch 4 tha luv of ray j cause of u i hope that u jus dont be like all the rest of them stupid girls