And so, it turns out not just that Mz Berry was there for the love of Ray J, but that Ray J was there for the love of Mz Berry. Below Ray’s second-season pick talks about winning Ray’s heart, what communication has been like since taping the show, the stress and ridicule she had to endure throughout her stay in the mansion and why she thinks so many women relate to her.
Congratulations!
Thank you.
How has communication with Ray been since the show wrapped?
Really, Ray and I aren’t allowed to speak to each other. We aren’t allowed to meet or anything like that.
Do you have a good feeling about where things are going?
We just have to see. You can’t really base on everything that happened with us three, four months ago. I wouldn’t say feelings change, but you just have to see. In any type of relationship, you just take it one step at a time. We’ll definitely both talk about what we want, and we’ll see where it goes from there.
Are you excited to see him at the reunion?
Yes, very excited. I’m a little nervous, but very excited.
What about the other girls?
I feel fine about seeing them.
When Ray picked you, was there any sense of accomplishment, especially considering the way you were treated by the other girls?
No. They never really harassed me to my face. A lot of what was said on the show was said when I wasn’t present. Nobody really came at me crazy, except for the one incident when we were all outside. Other than that, there was no other time when anybody except for Danger said anything to me. Nobody.
Has it been hard, then, to watch the show and see what people are saying about you?
Not really. It’s not even hurtful. I think maybe my friends and family are more hurt when the girls call me old or say that I’m jealous or a freak. I’m just like, “Whatever.” It’s not that serious to me.
It’s pretty ridiculous that 32 is considered old.
I just had a birthday, so I’m 33 now. That’s not old at all, but it’s relative. I think when you’re in your early 20′s, someone who’s 32, 33 could be old. It’s like, “Oh my god! Wow, I don’t ever want to be that old.” But it’s not old – I feel like I’m just starting my life.
It seems like you really invested yourself emotionally in this show.
I wouldn’t even say I invested myself in the show. I’d say I invested myself in Ray. I wasn’t there for a show, I was there to meet this man.
It really crept up on you, right?
It did. I think even still now, it’s all very surreal to me that 1) I know him and 2) that we have the type of connection that we have. It’s very strange. I wasn’t expecting that. I was very naive going into the whole situation. I didn’t think I’d even be called to do anything like that. I just filled out the application on a whim, and had no idea. Then when they called me, I thought it would be no big deal. At one point, I didn’t want to do it, I figured I’d just find love on my own. But my mom told me, “No! Give it a shot! You never know where you going to find love.” I figured whatever, what do I have to lose? Then I got there and I met him and he’s just a really sweet, genuine person. He’s got a really big heart. I like him as a person.
You told him you were in love with him.
I really felt like I was falling for him. I fell for him pretty hard. I believe that Ray and I would have left and been together [if we stayed in contact]. I believe it would have been a very strong relationship. I’m interested to see what happens when we do get back together. But you know, life happens. I told Ray that no matter how you put it out there, even though this was a show, love is a very powerful energy. It’s very strong. If you put that word and energy out in the universe that that’s what you want, when it comes to you, you have to be willing to accept it. I’m sure he wasn’t expecting this to come from a TV show, but neither was I. It’s very hard for him to reconcile his feelings for me because this came at him in such an unconventional way.
Watching you get increasingly upset over him spending time with the other girls felt really real to me. If you’re invested in someone, I feel like that should bother you, and yet it’s something we rarely see so explicitly on these shows.
That’s why when people said I was a jealous freak or whatever, it’s not like I was jealous of them, it’s just that it hurt a little bit. It was very irritating to see him really go overboard with showing those last three other girls so much attention on the day after our overnight date, for example. I really think he was doing a bit much.
Was this situation taxing on you?
Definitely. I was completely out of my element being there. I think it came across in the wrong way. I think a lot of the girls were put off by me staying to myself. It had nothing to do with me not liking them, because I’ve always said all of the girls have a lot to offer somebody. I think they’re all talented in a lot of different ways. They’re good women. But it was different for me. I don’t have friends or people that I hang out with that are in their early 20′s. All of the fighting and yelling and screaming and picking on this one one day, bullying another person the next, getting up in somebody’s face…I was out of my element with that. The less drama, the better for me. I didn’t want to be around the negativity. I wasn’t there to get camera time. I was there to meet Ray and have him get to know me.
What did you think about the question pertaining to whether or not Ray was ready to be a father to your kids?
My children have a father. The most he could be was a role model. That’s it.
Did your kids watch the show?
A little. My daughter goes to bed at 9 every night, so if she did catch it, it was online or after school. She was really interested to see who got voted off, and she still doesn’t know who won. She has a clue, but I didn’t want her to tell anybody.
What did you think of Ray’s parents’ assessment of you?
I actually didn’t see the clip show yet, but my mom told me what his mom said. She said she agreed with her. When I met them, I thought that they were wonderful people, and if I were his mom, I too would be concerned about him dating a woman with a son that’s half of Ray’s age. If she wasn’t concerned, it would have been a problem.
Was that a concern to you, though? Like did you ever think, “Whoa. I’m into this guy that’s twice as old as my son…”?
Not really. I wasn’t looking for someone to be my kids’ father. They have a father, he’s present in their lives. This was somebody for me to spend time with, somebody to make me happy. And if I’m happy, my kids are happy.
You mentioned not being there for camera time, and I think that really came through on the show.
People say that, and it’s like, I don’t know any other way to be. I think I got screwed up pretty bad, because I really was there to meet this guy and see what would happen, and I was caught off guard by a lot of the stuff that happened. And just thinking, “Is this just a TV show or…?” It was really surreal and a lot to handle. But I really appreciate people being positive toward me, being uplifting. I’ve had women come up to me and say I’m an inspiration to them, and that’s so amazing to me because I have a story that I will share someday. It’s my testimony. I’ve had a long, long journey, and I’m very grateful for the place I’ve come to in my life. Someday, I’d like to really help a lot of people with the situations I’ve been through. Sometimes, it’s so weird, like, “How do I have fans?” But it is nice to hear that they really related to me. And this being a reality show, I think my life is the reality. The women who watch that show are just like me. We live our lives, we take care of our children, we go to work, and that’s it. We look for love in all different ways, and mine just happened to be on TV.
Keep up with Mz Berry via her MySpace and follow her on Twitter.
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| 214 | Bonus Clips | Videos: Reunion Bonus Clips | 2/08/10 |
| 214 | Show Clips | Videos: Reunion Show Clips | 2/08/10 |
| 212 | Bonus Clips | Videos: Finale Bonus Clips | 2/01/10 |
| 212 | Show Clips | Videos: Come Away with Me Show Clips | 2/01/10 |
| 213 | Bonus Clips | Videos: Ray J's Season 2 Review! | 1/25/10 |
| 211 | Bonus Clips | Videos: Episode 11 Bonus Clips | 1/18/10 |
| 211 | Show Clips | Videos: Homie Invasion Show Clips | 1/18/10 |
| 210 | Bonus Clips | Videos: Episode 10 Bonus Clips | 1/11/10 |
| 210 | Show Clips | Videos: The Breaking Point Show Clips | 1/11/10 |
| 209 | Bonus Clips | Videos: Episode 9 Bonus Clips | 1/04/10 |
| 209 | Show Clips | Videos: The Truth Will Set You Free Show Clips | 1/04/10 |
| 208 | Bonus Clips | Videos: Episode 8 Bonus Clips | 12/21/09 |
| 208 | Show Clips | Videos: Dangers Liaisons Show Clips | 12/21/09 |
| 207 | Bonus Clips | Videos: Episode 7 Bonus Clips | 12/14/09 |
| 207 | Show Clips | Videos: The Amazing Rays Show Clips | 12/14/09 |
| 206 | Bonus Clips | Videos: Episode 6 Bonus Clips | 12/07/09 |
| 206 | Show Clips | Videos: Ray J Fever Show Clips | 12/07/09 |
| 205 | Bonus Clips | Videos: Episode 5 Bonus Clips | 11/30/09 |
| 205 | Show Clips | Videos: Mean Girls Show Clips | 11/30/09 |
| 204 | Bonus Clips | Videos: Episode 4 Bonus Clips | 11/23/09 |
| 204 | Show Clips | Videos: A Little Too Late Show Clips | 11/23/09 |
| 203 | Bonus Clips | Videos: Episode 3 Bonus Clips | 11/16/09 |
| 203 | Show Clips | Videos: Not Again Dre Show Clips | 11/16/09 |
| -- | Bonus Clips | Videos: Ray J Discusses Exes with Rich the Blogger | 11/12/09 |
| 202 | Bonus Clips | Videos: Episode 2 Bonus Clips | 11/09/09 |
| 202 | Show Clips | Videos: Ray's Leading Ladies Show Clips | 11/09/09 |
| 201 | Show Clips | Videos: That's What's Up Show Clips | 11/05/09 |
| 201 | Bonus Clips | Videos: Episode 1 Bonus Clips | 11/02/09 |
| 201 | Show Clips | Videos: New Season Preview and Wildest Hella Moments | 5/01/09 |
| -- | Show Clips | Videos: This Monday Ray J is Looking for His Leading Lady! | 11/06/09 |
| -- | Show Clips | Videos: This Monday Ray J Wants To See Your Moves | 11/13/09 |
| -- | Show Clips | Videos: This Monday The Ladies Style Ray J for a Sean John Photo Shoot | 11/20/09 |
| -- | Show Clips | Videos: Monday The Rumors Run Rampant! | 11/24/09 |
| -- | Show Clips | Videos: This Monday Step Back in Time with Ray's 70s Challenge | 12/04/09 |
| -- | Show Clips | Videos: This Monday Ray Sends the Ladies Racing Through L.A. | 12/11/09 |
| -- | Show Clips | Videos: This Monday Ray is Visited by the Faces of his Past! | 12/18/09 |
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Hello Mz Berry,
You did you just right… you are a very sexy, classy &
sophisticated young lady that has much respect for herself. I believe in my heart that you are Ray J’s future, you are the one that can help him to change his ways. I like the way you carry yourself in the house inspite off all the drama with the other girls, you did not allow it to stop you from doing you… Follow yout heart and remember to always put God first in all that you do and He will direct your path (Proverbs 3:5-6).
P.S. I am dying to know what happen after the reunion? Because I believe that “what God has for you it is for you, and know devil in hell can stop that “.
God Bless you,
Love, Ms. Pat
I THINK RAY IS NOT A ONE WOMEN MAN AND SHE CAN DO BETTER THEN THAT HE IS PLAYING ALL THOSE GIRLS AND HIS SELF
Mz. Berry you need your on show. I would love to see that one. I will will sing up for that.
Ms.Berry & RayJ let me tell use one thing im a 42 year old woman and since the age of having my first child at the age of eighteen had my first seroius operation then it just kept going ive had 16 surgerys but not only that ive was in colma 1time &yhen after ive been close 2 death 4 times i have 3 kids i gave birth 2 is been 2 year that my mom & sister past away back to back 1 in jan the other in feb but i give thank 2 GOd 7 Jesue Crist 4 one beautiful baby boy that my newphew gave birth 2 cause they gave him 2 me when he was 4 months and he was very sick he has a Gard 3 infection which i brought down 2 a Gard 2 ok now my reason 4 all this is that life is very perious and Ray ive seen u since young & from all the girls u made the right choice _#*@%`!+_^&$#(_+ corn fed she is just jeallous & if u ever need advise dnt hesistate 2 get in contact cause what ive told u is just the starting.
Mz Berry, 33 is not old the one thing I admired most about you on the show is the fact that you are a Lady these girls who were on the show were only there for fame………..you are classy, pretty and you have a good head on your shoulder and that is what they are jealous of. Good Luck and all the best. I hope Ray is a sensible young man.
I think ray j pick the right one she pretty the other girl didnt no what she want i think ray no who he wanted and that was mizz berry
Ray J is the worse actor i’ve ever had the displeasure of watching and for him to make all these young ladies think he was looking for love was a real joke! I hope he doesnt make a for the love of ray j 3 because the 2nd was hard enough to watch! pitiful!!!
mz berry is hellof a cool i am really happy that she won ray jay heart she is the right woman not girl for him ray jay needs somebody like her tobe with i love u ray jay o stay in starkville mississippi
We the Fan want to Know Is Are You still Together.
I dont care what anybody says, you are a classy lady and ray j needed somebody eaxactly like you to keep his feet on the ground, you are a very pretty lady and you carry yourself as one and he should be proud to have you on his arm, and if people think your old oh well, sorry about there luck , right? Im just happy he picked you and not the other, Im sooo happy for you!!! Good luck, and remember you won!
HEY RAYJ, WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU? WHERE IS THE CLASS, THE MANNER? ARE YOU KIDING ME? I AM NOT SURE THAT YOU ARE READY FOR TRUE LOVE. I AM 48, I SUPPORTED AND WATCHED YOUR SHOW BUT IT SEEMS LIKE SOMETIMES MONEY MAKES YOU FEEL LIKE ON THE TOP OF THE WORLD, THEN YOU DON’T CARE ABOUT HURTING PEOPLE WHO SINCERELY LOVE YOU AND THOSE AROUND YOU.
IF TRULY YOU HAVE WISDOM AND EYES WIDE OPEN TO SEE WHAT YOU ARE ABOUT TO MISS, THE BEST CHOICE IS MZ BERRY, SO HUMBLE, SO CLASSY, SO SOPHISCATED AT THE SAME TIME. RAYJ, WAKE UP AND GROW UP PLEASE.
I LOVE YOU MZ BERRY AND GOD BLESS YOU.
I think that Mz. Berry is way too clingy and annoying. No way you fall in love with someone that fast. I understand if your falling for them, but not fall completely in love. I will say that she is very classy, beautiful, and a mature woman, but in my opinion she went on the wrong show. Ray J needs someone young and not fully mature yet, because he’s not fully mature yet. Ray and Mz Berry are at two different steps in their lives, and I just think Mz Berry would get in the way. He ends up breaking it off with her anyway after the reunion. Maybe she should go on The Bachelor or something. But she is far too clingy to be dating a r&b star.
Ray jay doesnt know what he wants.. he’s not ready to stick with one person. I think it was crappy he did that show and all he could say was keep it 100 and he couldnt even do that.. he wasnt even true to himself so how is he goin 2 be true 2 some1 else. Another thing i didnt like was ray j couldn’t even just tell her the truth that he didnt want to be with her and then when he went out on stage he acted like it was all good and the whole time he was behind stage he was like im telling her… I think he was being a chicken…he had to hint around the bush about it… then when miss berry told him he needed to figure out what he wanted he acted like what i know what i want and acted like he didnt know what she was talkin about.. knowin she not stupid it just really rub me the wrong way he needs to grow up and be a man.. stop letting his mom fight his battles I really liked the show until he did all that.. But everbody makes mistakes he will grow up 1 day.. but mrs. berry you go girl u handle ur self real good.. u have this glow about u.. don’t let him r any1 else bring u down ur very smart and pretty. god puts us in people life 4 a reason even if it to help them over come something their many different reason i really believe that everythings happens 4 a reason..
idk if dey broke up congrats
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