Dawn Neufeld of Football Wives has agreed to blog for us, giving us weekly behind-the-scenes insight and dishing on each of her show’s episodes. In advance of Sunday’s premiere (at 10:30/9:30c on air — it is also available to watch online now), she has prepared an introductory post on the making of the show. Below, Dawn gives you the scoop on what to expect from the varied personalities and situations the show portrays…and what it all means for the dynamic of the group.
Reality TV – Don’t Knock It ‘Til You Try It (Thanks Erin)
Hey everyone! It’s Dawn from Football Wives. I’ll be blogging throughout our premiere season on VH1. I look forward to giving you a behind-the-scenes look at the show and what it’s really like to be married to or dating a professional football player. From black-tie events to game day fireworks, there is a little something for everyone!
I recently conducted a poll on a few social networking sites – I asked, “When you hear Football Wives, what comes to mind?” One person said “50-yard line front row seats.” That would be a great perk if it existed! Actually, front row seats aren’t always the best if you’re sitting right behind a bench full of 300-pound offensive linemen. It’s a little hard to see the action on the field.
Some of the responses to my question were a little more personal and negative. To some, football wives are “stuck up, gold-digging, baby-having, money wasting females.” And that’s a quote. This is the perception, or maybe misconception, many may have about being in a relationship with a pro-athlete. People who know me and who know what my husband and I have been through over the past 10 years have a different perception of our reality. A good friend of mine from law school recalled how stressful it was to watch me endure Ryan getting cut from various teams. My mom talked about how often we moved around. Another friend said that football is a life of privilege with great risk – injuries, constant transition. This is the prime reason I decided to sign up to be a part this reality show – I wanted to show what our lives are REALLY like.
I can promise you the drama is real – with a cast full of dynamic women, there are bound to be arguments and disagreements, shortcomings and misunderstandings. We aren’t always going to get along. There may be some yelling, cussing and fussing throughout the season and I can tell you it was authentic and unscripted. The tears were real – the conflict often continued once cameras stopped rolling. And while some may say that they would never act a certain way on camera, you never know what will happen until you’re in the heat of the moment. Don’t knock it ’til you try it!
Here’s a little bit about why I think you should watch our show: You’ll get a glimpse of the good life! Amanda Davis is married to one of the highest paid linemen in the NFL and she is ballin’! Everything about her life is over the top! You’ll also see the not-so-glamorous side of the NFL, from Melani Ismael dealing with her husband Rocket’s devastating injuries to my husband’s difficult transition out of football. And here’s something interesting – most of our significant others participated in the show. You’ll get our perspective of football life, but you’ll also hear what our superstar husbands (and boyfriend – shout out to David Buehler) have to say too! Tune in this season and you’ll see that we are a diverse group with different football and life experiences.
And yes, most of our cast members are actually married. That’s a good start when the title of your show has the word “wives” in it, right? There are two unmarried cast members. Mercedes Nelson is the ex-girlfriend of a prominent NFL running back. Initially, I didn’t understand why an “ex” would appear on a show about wives but as production continued, I understood why Mercedes’ story was relevant. And Cowboys kicker David Buehler is dating Brittany Pigrenet. She’s just another girlfriend, right? Not so fast. I can’t tell you why their story is so intriguing – you’re going to have to watch the show to find out. But most of us were girlfriends before we married our husbands so having a girlfriend’s perspective is important.
Before you judge our reality, make sure you check out this dynamic and fun group of ladies when Football Wives premieres on VH1 this Sunday, October 24th at 10:30/9:30c. As the season progresses, make sure you respond to my blog with comments and questions and I’ll be sure to try to get back to you!