Tough Talk With Steve Ward: Episode 4


Master Matchmaker Steve Ward is back for a third season of Tough Love, and this time he’s traveled south to Miami where the heat is definitely on. Steve will be giving us his thoughts on every episode, and this week, he talks about the fun he had whispering (sweet nothings) into the ladies’ ears during their flirting challenge.

What is a bigger offense, having someone like Christine ignore you in this challenge with the earpiece, or someone like Leilani who almost blows the challenge and practically gives you up?

That’s a loaded question, huh? Leilani was so bewildered by me, but George is a pretty reasonable guy and he understands that these girls are going through a bootcamp and they’re there to work on themselves. It didn’t make a difference to me because if they don’t do the work, that’s their problem. These girls think they’re doing me a favor by doing the work and they’re not, they’re doing themselves a favor.

This is the second week in a row where Christine has basically refused to do the challenge and follow instructions, is that frustrating?

It’s pretty frustrating. What’s frustrating is that she’s the problem and she doesn’t get it, you know? It’s unfortunate when you’re really trying to help somebody and you want to see them into the relationship they want to be in and they’re fighting you, and for what? What is fighting me going to do? You have nothing to gain by arguing with me. Sometimes they draw me into a fight and it’s like, what is the point? It’s disappointing sometimes when you’re doing everything you can to make their lives easier and they don’t want to appreciate it. I get resigned to it, if you want to know the truth. If they don’t get that I’m there to help them, I don’t know what to tell them.

At this stage, do they still not understand that? They don’t get that you’re just here to help?

It’s hard for them to realize that. They think that I’ve got an agenda. I sympathize with them. They think they’re being exploited and they’re being set up to fail, but they’re really being set up to succeed. And no matter how hard you try, sometimes they don’t get it.

Avonte did a 180 this week, though.

Oh, 100%. She gets it. Avonte’s a smart woman. If you prove something to her and she realizes you were right, she’s got your back. I got her on my side and proved to her that you catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar, and she got it. As soon as she realized that, she got it.

When you surprised Chasity with Al, it was hilarious in the moment, but it also forced her to make a big decision and promise she’ll retire from dancing.

And you’re going to see more than that.

Who was the most fun to terrorize with the earpiece?

Oh, Michelle. That was great. She was a good sport. Michelle does everything I ask her to, so I don’t have any beef with her, she’s fun to work with and makes the show fun.

Was everything you were saying off-the-cuff, or did you script any of that out?

It was totally on the fly.

So with Brigette and Anthony and his asking for her ring size, that was him and not her advancing the situation.

But he was reacting, she said she wanted to be swept off her feet, well, okay. Sweep her off her feet, buddy. Do what you have to do.

Was she surprised though and realizing she should back off, or was she into it?

She was into it at first, that’s what women like her do, they try to bluff you like “Let’s see if you’re as serious as you say you are,” and I appreciate the fact that he was willing to challenge her, and he did, he put her on her toes and I admire him for that. Girls like Brigette try to bluff guys and when the guys step up they get completely scared. It’s hilarious.

Was he bluffing?

No, he was completely serious.

Let’s finally just talk a little about the dates who didn’t speak English. Were you monitoring the women and watching them flail, literally? It was like watching them play charades.

Their every move. It’s awesome, I love it. That’s why you see me laughing my a— off the whole time. But they get it. They’re starting to get with the program now. They’re starting to realize there’s a method to the madness.

How much do you think they trust you at this stage?

They don’t start trusting me until they start liking people. That’s the problem. How about you start trusting me beforehand? You wouldn’t be here if I didn’t think you had a chance at being in a healthy relationship. If you fail, I look bad and I don’t want to look bad.

To keep up to date with Steve, make sure you follow him on Twitter (@stevenbward), like him Facebook, friend him on Google Plus and watch his Love Lab channel on Ustream.

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