Basketball Wives L.A. star Jackie Christie has graciously offered to write a column for the VH1 blog with the advice and wisdom she’s picked up after years of marriage to retired NBA star Doug Christie. The Christies’ relationship has been inspirational for many of their peers, and they’ve never compromised it, they put family and each other ahead of everything else. The pair wrote a book, No Ordinary Love, together and we’re glad that Jackie has chosen to share even more of her words of wisdom as a true basketball wife with us each week. This week’s topic: Sexual Relations!
The question often comes up whenever I’m talking to people about relationships: Does sex play a significant role in keeping a marriage or relationship together? I must say YES, but the reasons may not be what you think they are. When two people are together intimately it not only strengthens the bond between them, it allows them to communicate with their bodies and minds. There is no greater or stronger way to become one, except in the moment. The intimacy that a couple share when they’re together is a gift they give to one another.
But intimacy is not just the physical act of making love, it is the small things that will ultimately lay the foundation of a lasting marriage or relationship.
It’s the times when you do something sweet for your partner like cook them their favorite meal before they get in from work or run your mate a bath just because you know they had a long day, And you do it before they ask you to.
It’s also the sexy text message you send them just letting them know you’re thinking about them, and maybe that you faintly can smell their cologne or perfume in the air when you close your eyes. Being intimate with your mate is that special thing that happens just between the two of you, and just makes your knees weak at the thought of your partner caressing your shoulders or giving you a passing kiss on the cheek, just to let you know that you’re special to them.
Men and women alike want to feel needed appreciated and loved and the intimacy in a relationship is the heart that beats between the two of you.
Always keep the closeness between you and your partner by sharing all kinds of sweet, intimate moments, thoughts and conversations with each other for no reason at all, other than because you care for each other. And by doing this your relationship is sure to last.