Laura Govan started off this season of Basketball Wives L.A. with a bang, immediately getting into a tussle with Malaysia in episode one and she was even voted the show’s biggest troublemaker in a poll we posted early on. After talking to the soft-spoken but sharp-tongued Govan during the reunion, it’s hard to imagine this woman who kept declaring that she is a mother, first and foremost, could ever try to beat someone up, but she admits she’s not to be messed with. Despite her tough exterior on the show, she was far from intimidating, and in fact, I totally wanted to hang out with Laura after the show, but I didn’t want to creep her out. Check out our interview in which Laura showed off her killer engagement ring, talked about her pending nuptials to Gilbert Arenas, and told me how she retaliates against mean Twitter followers (watch out, she might DM you if you get under her skin).
Were you apprehensive about doing the show?
A little bit. I didn’t understand the editing part of it.
Did you ever look at what Gloria went through in Miami and think “I don’t want to deal with that drama.”
No, I didn’t ever look at it like that. To me, the experience was all in good fun. I had a good time. It’s like therapy almost.
I think I need you to teach me how to swear like you, I love hearing you say “Get the f— outta here,” I think your delivery is hilarious.
[Laughs] But I MEAN it when I say it. That’s who I am. I just hate the fact that there’s three hours of taping and you only get to see one minute of whatever they want to put in there, that part bothers me, but outside of that, I am who I am all the time. I’m like this when I go to Target and I’m talking to somebody there. I always say “Shut the hell up,” or whatever. I just don’t cuss around my kids so when I don’t have them, I feel like I wanna say whatever the f— I want to say at any f—ing time and I get f—ing excited, you know?
Do you worry that when the time comes when they do stumble upon the show, they’ll see you swearing or fighting?
No, I think with any action, I can always explain or justify it. And I want to show them, you know, “Look at what Mommy did.” I had a great time. This was my experience on the show. My oldest is five and she’s a diva and I’m not going to let her sit down and this is what mommy’s going to put on TV, never, but when she gets older, if this comes about, I’m definitely going to explain to her, and to all of them, this is what Mommy experienced. I want them to be worldly.
If there’s a season two, would you do it? Would your move to Orlando affect that?
Yeah, I would! For some people this is their job, this is their livelihood. For me, I’m a mother first, I don’t give a s— about nothing else. After that, everything else falls into place. So for me, this is fun, if I have the time to do it, of course I will. Who wouldn’t want to come to work and have their hair and makeup done by somebody? This is a blessing for me. As I’ve gone along the way, I appreciate everyone I’ve met, everyone that’s helped me, I mean, for other people to take the time out of their lives to make me look pretty or to help me, I’m thankful.
How would you describe your style?
I’m a mother and I sweat hard. I like to wear flip flops, I’m a jeans and t-shirt type of chick, I’m easy. I stumble across things at Goodwill. Yeah, you can go to Saks and get s—, but I want stuff that nobody has, vintage, pieces that are everlasting. One of the swimsuit outfits I had on in Hawaii was my Spanx and a sportsbra.
Yes! I just wanted to be comfortable and that bikini thing wasn’t cuttin’ it.
Did the storyline of this season surprise you, the way things ended up with Jackie?
No, not much surprises me. I feel like there are so many people in the world and you never know who you’re gonna get. Jackie’s got a lot going on in her life and I think she’s a good entertainer. I accept her for who she is. Messy, crazy, she is who she is.
So were you two truly friends at the beginning of all this?
I think I was genuinely her friend, but Jackie just has her own thing going on. And I believe wholeheartedly that she believes she loved me, but I think life takes over. As far as she and I are concerned, I’m cool with Jackie. I’m not going to call her and ask her to go to church with me or to the flea market, but we’re cool. When I have quarrels with people, after time, it is what it is, we take care of it, and I move on. I don’t have time to harp on things we said, I got s— to do. I have four kids. I’m breastfeeding an entire household. I don’t have time to worry about her.
What’s your relationship like with the rest of the girls?
Same thing. Imani, I love her to death, Malaysia I love, my sister I love, I would honestly call any of them to hang out. Even Draya. For me, we’re all cool.
Where do you stand on Draya now with the police report stuff, do you believe her?
No. But for me, Draya’s life is Draya’s life. She is what she is. A lot of this is for entertainment, in real life I don’t Google anybody.
Do you regret MMA and beating up Draya?
No, because had it been Jackie or Ima or my sister, I woulda went just as hard. That had nothing to do with Draya. It just happened that she got in the ring. I hate that it was like “Oh you were picking on somebody little,” it wasn’t like that.
Draya called you out for being a tough girl and being hard on her, is that just your personality, or is it sarcasm?
Yeah, I like to be sarcastic, it’s just natural and I say what I wanna say. There’s a lot of people who don’t like me, but if you don’t like me, close your ears.
Do you think it was unfair of you all to gang up on her and confront her with the police report?
Look, she wasn’t a victim. She knows what she did. For me, I don’t give a s—. If you really believe she’s done something so bad and evil, you remove yourself from that situation. It’s the network’s job to turn a ho into a housewife. And I think Draya’s cool for the most part.
What do you think about her comments that you’re two faced because you say one thing about her and then you go around and hug her when you see her?
I would say that’s two-faced too. But that’s editing. It does look like I’m two-faced on TV, but you only got a minute of an hour conversation.
Were you worried that the rumors about you would come out on the show?
No, for me, I live my life like, my biggest priorities are my children, Gilbert, my brother who lives with me, and I don’t give a s— what comes out. Either it is true or it isn’t and people are going to believe what they want to regardless of what I say so for me, I’ve moved on from what’s been said. And there’s always new s— to come too. I heard I was a man. I mean, what can I say to that?
So we’ll be seeing you on Basketball Husbands then?
Exactly! Some of the stuff that’s been said, I’m like dang, I didn’t know that happened to me! I don’t care, for me, this is a job and it’s all in fun.
Do you ever get bothered by people tweeting mean things or anything?
I’m going to be honest with you, when I’m on Twitter, I crack jokes all time time but sometimes you’ll catch me direct messaging people back and I’ll be like “Come on now, you of all people shouldn’t talk like that, look at your hairline,” or whatever, I go hard on people who are mean for no reason, I direct message them.
Do they respond to you?
No, after that I block them. I’m so smooth, girl! I had to take Twitter off my phone though, because you get too caught up in that stuff.
How do you feel about the fact that the first impression people got of you this season was that fight?
Well, I wanted people to know that about me. Don’t f— with me. I’m really nice, but at the end of the day, I’ll throw a TV, a trash can, a chair, it’s gonna go down. Don’t be disrespectful of me and I won’t be disrespectful of you. I actually like how it started! We all watched the first episode together and while people were watching the fight, I was watching my belly. I was like, dang! I’m big. I got weight to lose! I see it differently. I pay attention to me, not what’s going on.
Your baby kills me, he is so cute.
Isn’t he? He’s like a grown man in the face. He’s been here before.
I love to see that other side of everyone with their kids and at home.
My husband-to-be tells me I give too much, but I’m like, I’m just giving myself. I can’t stop and think about what to reveal about myself, that’s like having gas you can’t let out.
Was he cool with you doing the show?
Yeah, he was cool.
You were broken up when the show began, did your doing the show help you get back together?
HELL no. The show don’t help with s—. We are naturally going to always be together. It’s like a boomerang. You throw it, it’s just coming right back. We have four kids together so we’re always going to be in each others’ lives.
Do you have a wedding date?
We do not have a date, but even if I did, I wouldn’t tell you.
I’ll put the helicopters and photographers on hold then. Is that your engagement ring?
Yes, but this is old. He designed this for me. It’s 23 carats, but as a matter of fact, I had to cut out three carats because I got stung by a bee and my finger swelled, so I had to get the diamonds cut out so I could take it off.
What did you think about Imani moving your stuff out of her place without talking to you about it?
My initial thought was she just saved me some money, thanks, Ima! After that, I thought it was funny. That stuff don’t bother me.
In Hawaii when you guys talked, was that the moment you figured out what Jackie had been doing?
Like two weeks before we went to Hawaii is when I figured it all out. At first I had no idea what was going on, but once I figured out it was Jackie, I let the movie play out.
Did you guys truly bond on that trip, did it make your relationships stronger?
I wouldn’t say it made things stronger, but I think in general I don’t have the time to call everyone all the time, the girls aren’t on my priority list, I have nine brothers and sisters, so calling my friends isn’t on my priority list, but we’re all cool.
Not having grown up in the spotlight, is it weird to know you have fans and have people approach you now?
When people want to take pictures with me I still think it’s weird. Because I don’t see myself as a famous chick. I’m a mother. My kids don’t give a s— about me on TV or trying to look cute, I had on red lipstick the other day and I bent over to kiss my son and he was like “Can you take that off to give me a kiss?” Stuff like that brings me back to life and reality.