Tami Roman has faced a lot of criticism this season on Basketball Wives, but she’s also made a lot of progress and has had great success recently with her acting career. When I sat with her before the reunion show filmed, we talked about all of it, and we discussed how she feels about all the “internet bullies” who have ganged up on her recently. Our chat is below.
How do you feel about being here at the reunion today?
I’m excited to be here, you know, I haven’t seen any of the girls since we finished filming, so I’m excited to see people, for whatever reason…to get things off my chest, to give somebody a hug, to say I’m sorry, whatever the case may be, I’m excited to see each girl for reasons of my own.
Are you worried about anything that might happen onstage?
I’m never worried. I’m not. I can handle anything that comes my way, I take it as it comes.
If you could change anything about this season, what would you change?
I think every season, I kind of transition in one way or another. And it may appear to be minor to people looking in on my life, but it’s actually major for me, so the situation with Kesha, I think I definitely would have handled that differently. I probably wouldn’t have been as loud and as boisterous as I was with her. My message still would have been the same but I think it could have been delivered differently. Although, having said that, that’s strides, leaps and bounds from the way I approached things in season two, season three. Minor changes, but definitely progressive.
What made you comfortable enough to show your therapy and your really emotional conversations with your mom on the show this season? Those were big moments that most people would handle in private, so how did doing them on the show affect you?
I think it was a good thing for me to do because I hadn’t dealt with those things. From a public standpoint, I think there are a lot of women who are going through those same issues, and just being able to watch me openly acknowledge what I’ve gone through can help them in their situations. In a nutshell, on Basketball Wives, you’re gonna get the drama, the drinks, the lunches, all of that other stuff, but for me, every season, I try to figure out what I can bring that’s valuable and of substance from my life, and this was one of those moments.
Have you stayed in anger management?
Just to clarify, it wasn’t really anger management, it was more therapy in a sense that when a person is angry or hurt or depressed, it stems from something. I called it anger management, but it was really more to find out why I’m so angry, to be clear with what those things were in the past.
What do you think will happen with Kesha today?
I haven’t spoken to Kesha since Tahiti, so I don’t really know what will happen. I guess we’ll see once we all get out there on stage.
How’s your health?
I am in perfect health now.
I’m glad to hear it!
[Tami toasts her glass.] And now I’m having a beer and toasting to good health.
What’s your situation with Royce?
I have not spoken to Royce, today will be the first time I’ve actually spoken to her and been face to face.
Is the issue still just that you feel she shouldn’t speak on things she didn’t witness firsthand?
Not specific to Royce, but I think people in general, I mean, if you’re not there and you’re not involved, I think that you’re position should be neutral until you have all the information and all the facts. And I think if you watch Basketball Wives and you’re going to base your opinion on what you’re watching when you know it’s an edited version of what transpired, I think that’s just not really coming from a fair place. That’s my position on that.
Shaunie has talked about pushing for more positivity on the show, do you think that’s possible?
I would hope so. I would hope that if there’s a season five, we’ll see a change and have a balance. I’m not gonna say that the drama that happens and the arguments we have aren’t real, they are real, but if you have fifteen episodes and have one argument, it’s stretched over five weeks when really it’s one thing that happened in one day. I’d like to see more variety and more balance in that way. In real life I don’t walk around with boxing gloves wanting to fight every person I meet, and I think that since that’s the persona that’s given to me on Basketball Wives, people think that’s all there is to me. They think that’s all we are, and we’re not.
I’ve read that you said somewhere that all the internet criticism is getting to you, how do you feel about all of that?
I’m fine with the criticism, I think what you’re referring to is an interview I did and that article was totally misconstrued in terms of what I actually said. My exact words during that interview were that people have a lot of criticism with regard to us and how things are shown and they’re making statements that we’re bullies, but it they really think about it, they’re actually doing the one thing they despite and that they’re chastising us about. To be on Twitter and Facebook and blogs every day saying something negative, that’s a form of bullying. I wasn’t saying I’m affected, I think everyone has a right to their opinion, my specific comment was you can’t throw stones when you live in a glass house.